I am at a cross road in my 5 year relationship. He has four young adult children and I have a special needs 21 yr old and a 14 yr old. We have lived together for 4 yrs and have been engaged for 4 yrs. When we first moved in together 3 of his teenaged kids lived with us. Now they have all moved out and we just have my 14 yr old at home. The problem is when his children lived with us, I grew to loath them. They are lazy, thieves. We both had very different parenting skills. His is the "cool, party dad" While I am the overbearing and protective mother.