I am at a cross road in my 5 year relationship. He has four young adult children and I have a special needs 21 yr old and a 14 yr old. We have lived together for 4 yrs and have been engaged for 4 yrs. When we first moved in together 3 of his teenaged kids lived with us. Now they have all moved out and we just have my 14 yr old at home. The problem is when his children lived with us, I grew to loath them. They are lazy, thieves. We both had very different parenting skills. His is the "cool, party dad" While I am the overbearing and protective mother. I had never dated a man with kids and had no idea what in the hell I was in for. I would never do it again!!Nor would I recomend it. His youngest son breaks into our home when we are gone, then he acts like he is the greatest thing since sliced bread. His 19 yr old daughter just had her fisrt baby, so I am terrified that she will leave her boyfriend and have to live with us. The problem is over the years I have tried very hard to get past my ill feeling for his children. No matter how hard I try, I can't! In fact I think it is worse than ever now. When I her any hint of them comming over, I leave. Some days I have stayed at work late or drove around to make sure I didn't have to run into them. Every holiday, we never spend together, because I go somewhere else so I don't have to deal with all if them. I know this is rediculous, but I can't help it. I feel so guilty for feeling this way. I don't see how a relationship can possibly work if I can't deal with his kids, and as they get older, I only see it getting worse. I feel like I should end the relationship. He loves his kids dearly and I think it would be wrong for me to stand in the way of him and his kids. I am also tired of feeling all of the guilt. Is this normal?