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1st b'day party for sgs

sterlingsilver's picture

Sd27 was here this weekend with sgs8months and she is planning a 1st birthday party for him; his birthday is the day before TG this year and this year is DH's family thanksgiving meal and sd is planning the party for the day after at a neutral place and it'll be fun and all but BM#1 is going to be there. DH's immediate response to sd announcing this party and bm being there was "cool, I haven't seen her in 20 years, it'll be fun". Ok so now I am going to be a wreck by the time this party happens. I am already trying to think of things to keep us from driving to the family TG meal and that dreaded b'day party.

So now I am looking for input into how any of you ladies have handled events where you've had to go to mutual events with the BM there? I thought the one event we'd probably only have to endure with BM#1 is perhaps sd's wedding. Bm#1 is friends on FB with my mil and sil and is very much still in good standing with the family, she was even friends with bm#2 and it's all a big chummy group. So how is it going to be when DH and I walk into the restaurant? What if she is sitting with some of the family and what if DH and her get to talking about good ol' times, b/c they were high school sweethearts? OMG, I am getting myself into a tizzy over this. At least sd was sane enough to turn down bm#1's invitation to have the party at her house.

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oldone's picture

Well you have several months to polish yourself up. (although you may not need it like I do). Go in with your head held high knowing that you are fabulous. Attitude and self confidence count for a lot.

Go into the party knowing that you are the UPGRADE. Be kind (and perhaps a little condescending) to BM.

sterlingsilver's picture

I'm hoping to at least have bs15 there so I can sit with him and I'm almost sure that my dh's brother's wife (sil) will not want to be close to her so she might be a good person to hang with and she is a second wife as well so she might empathize with me b/c the family has also stayed friends with her BM. Yes, that's true, DH even has his brother's first wife on his FB. Can you believe this family? Lucky for me DH's second wife is not friends with the family, she's an outcast. lol

Complicated!