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Effin rotten day - already - dark moody rant

sterlingsilver's picture

Submitted by sterlingsilver on Fri, 07/26/2013 - 11:17am

I wish I had just gone to work instead of taking the day off to spend with mil and aunt in law. So for those of you who remember, that mammoth dog we gave to ss19 that dh adopted, it came back, you were right about ss19 not being responsible enough to keep a mammoth dog. So this dog has been here for weeks now, not fixed yet, stuck to the side of ss16 and will obey no one else. Last evening while we were all sitting down to dinner I told the dog to go lie down and ss16 says he's fine. So now ss16 is interfering with me trying to control this huge dog? what the eff????? I am sick and tired of giving 500% and getting zero percent back in respect and my needs met.

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just.his.wife's picture

Submitted by just.his.wife on Fri, 07/26/2013 - 11:33am

Thats when you should have said to SS16

"Did I ask your opinion or input? No? Thought not." Then get up and move the dog.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 07/26/2013 - 11:42am

I think the dog should "run away" first thing in the morning. Find a shelter out of the way (so ss wouldn't think to call them) and get him there asap.

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Submitted by unwillingparticipant on Fri, 07/26/2013 - 3:28pm

1) I am completely on your side
2) This has nothing to do w/ss19. It has everything to do w/the energy you're putting out towards it.
Let me explain:
Whoever establishes him/her self as the alpha in this dogs life will become the one the dog listens to. Its pretty simple actually. There are a couple websites I reference for our dog and get tips on maintaining my place as the alpha so she listens when I tell her something. Its worked out REALLY well. Cesarsway.com or dogbreedinfo.com are ones I look at from time to time. Its not something you have to work on foreverrrrrrrrrr either. It's literally almost instantaneous.
You can do all this without letting ss19 know - he'll be flabbergasted and won't know what happened, lol!

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Submitted by sterlingsilver on Fri, 07/26/2013 - 6:49pm

I'm going to check out those websites.

Our day was going fine, ss16 stayed home while the adults went to the casino. However, now I am left at home to cook supper while DH, his mom and his aunt and ss16 go to pick up ss19 to bring here for the night. If ss19 even begins to think he can move back in I will absolutely MOVE OUT. I have the money now b/c without telling DH that I got child support for xh, I now have almost 3k in my savings account and it ain't gonna be used for dh or skids.

I also put all the wine away and my wine rack b/c ss19 is notorious for drinking several bottles while he stays with us. I am NOOOOOOTTTTT happy about him spending the night on the couch, I have to get up at 5am and usually sit in my livingroom to have coffee and eat before leaving.

Also mil has been so pushy with me like she is trying to make me happy or something and then asking me several times at the casino to cash in the tickets for them and asking me to push the cart at the store and grab this and that and then telling me to unload the cart so DH doesn't have to etc. I'm not a child and I definately do not like being bossed around. I did win $96 after playing $10 today!!