My SD13's mom lives with her parents (SD's grandparents). She has lived with them off and on for about a year. My DH has primary custody of SD, but during the summer, SD stays with BM every other week. During school, she only sees BM every other weekend. SD doesn't want to go see her mother, but does because the courts say she must. Her mother has a drug problem, can't keep a job (doesn't even really try to get one), and is very irresponsible (obviously).