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Any stepparenting experts out there?

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Submitted by Booqueen on Sat, 10/30/2021 - 6:25am

As a teacher, I feel as if I've learnt a lot about discipline and classroom management. As for (step)parenting, I feel Ike a fish out of water. I read lots of books at the start when I met SS(4.5). I tried many strategies that experts talked about and a lot of it worked but a lot haven't. I got him feeding and dressing himself. That was my first 'claim to fame'. It appalled me that he was still being hand fed and dressed like a baby when he was almost 5.

What is the expectation of a step parent?

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Submitted by Booqueen on Fri, 10/29/2021 - 7:11am

Are we expected to be half a parent? As in, take up some responsibility in the raising of skids, entertain them, buy them presents, cook them meals, babysit them, help our other half like an equal partner?

I know some steps are equal partners. Some steps go above and beyond what bio parents do. But let's say a step (like me) takes a step back (literally) from the parenting, is it a bad thing?

Early morning rant about SO

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Submitted by Booqueen on Sat, 10/23/2021 - 6:28pm

Two months ago, one of my really good friends suggested we do a monthly meetup. The 3 of us were tight and we've never done monthly meetups, just random, and after a lot of years of us going different ways (living in diff countries) and now finally back in the same place again, we all decided it was a swell idea. (Background: we see each other weekly at the B-church but not much opportunity to seriously talk and catch up unless we meet outside)

Does step parenting get any easier, I wonder

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Submitted by Booqueen on Wed, 10/20/2021 - 6:42am

I've been in my SS's life for two years and 1 day. Meaning, I met him 2 years and 1 day ago today. I have lived full time with him for about 10 months. He is turning 7 in January and there are days/weeks/months that I feel like walking out. I'm not going to lie. Sometimes it's been good. But that's like 10-20% of the time only. Other times it's just difficult and I feel like it is really really troublesome to have a child around. 

I love this place

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Submitted by Booqueen on Sat, 10/16/2021 - 7:35pm

It gives me a space to vent through my blog (somewhat like diary writing) and allows me the chance to put my thoughts into writing. This really helps! Bottling it all up means I will start resenting everything the SS does/says/behaves with no place to let it all out. Thank you, Steptalk! I appreciate this site. Glad I found you! 

Incessant chatter

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Submitted by Booqueen on Fri, 10/08/2021 - 6:18pm

The SS(6.5) chatters incessantly. Most of the time it's a monologue of everything and nothing, repeating stories and all he really wants is to hear the sound of his own voice. If we are having a conversation, he interrupts. If mum is on the phone, he interrupts. He keeps talking over us and i've gotten to a stage where sometimes I just don't want to talk to my partner anymore because he interrupts and makes it about him.