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If I hadn’t already been disengaged, this would have drove me to it!

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Oldest skid has had her temporary driving license and was scheduled to take her driving test this morning.

Yesterday, my SO took all 3 skids to a fun summer location about 2.5 hour drive away.  I stayed home to give them some bonding time (haha).  Oldest skid brought along her temp permit, but in the end turned down the opportunity to do any practice driving, telling my SO she didn’t feel like it.

On the way back, SO dropped them off at crazy pants BM (just over an hour away).  Total drive time: 5 hours give or take.

Another reminder to disengage

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I’m such a sucker for a sob story.

The eldest SD 16 was complaining her mom made her purchase her own clothing with money SD made working over the summer.  

Now I am not a fan of their stalking, cruel and just generally disgusting BM (although I do not voice my opinion of her to them), but get being a teen and buying your own clothes.  At 16 when I got my first job, my parents had me go the same, outside of clothing they’d buy for birthdays, holidays or special occasion.

But you know, it’s still not fun at that age because everything is so expensive.

Crazy Train is at the station!

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So crazy pants BM is truly on a roll!  The latest was a text she sent, saying Skid2 has to have a very expensive brand laptop for school, and couldn’t he buy it as he knows so much more about computers, followed by, I kid you not, a kissy emoji, heart emoji and the thumbs up emoji.

After SO, with the most disgusted look I’ve ever seen said, Doesn’t she realize I can’t stand her, and she has been harrassing me for weeks,” we both burst out laughing.

Summer fun

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*Hi Steppers!

Thought I’d share a couple of hilarious  BM requests that happened recently.

BM and the skids live about an hour and a half away from us (by way of background.)

About 2 weeks ago, SO gets a series of texts from BM letting SO know she’d rented a place at the beach last minute for an overnight (and about an hour away from her in the opposite direction from where we live.). Great!  The skids love the ocean!

Venting about the StepLife Shuffle

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My SO and I had Friday plans - for months, a ticketed event, on a skid free weekend.

High conflict BM needed to change her weekend, we have one in Aug to change, so all sounds good right?

But as everyone know, living in step life as we do that it’s never that easy.  After discussing with me immediately on finding there would be a switch, I said I was fine with this weekend, as long as he picked up the skids Sat.  I also explained why: the eldest (16 YO) has been getting herself into teenage trouble over the last few years, including as recently as two months ago.  

Public Service Announcement!

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All a crazy BM needs is...Yoga!  At least that’s the message my SO got over the weekend.  

After more than 10+ years of out of control behavior (including having the cops called out for domestic situations, regularly hitting her kids as well as verbal abuse, including texts my SO has seen so we know it’s not exaggeration on their part, and heck - her own parents don’t like her)...

she has gained “so much peace and calm from the yoga” that she’s been doing for the last month, she wanted my SO to know that she’s a new person.  

Oh, and her boyfriend broke up with her.

Hello!

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Hi all,

Another long time lurker coming forward. I've received so much help reading everyone who has been so kind to share their stories over the last 5 years.

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