My SO and I had Friday plans - for months, a ticketed event, on a skid free weekend.

High conflict BM needed to change her weekend, we have one in Aug to change, so all sounds good right?

But as everyone know, living in step life as we do that it’s never that easy.  After discussing with me immediately on finding there would be a switch, I said I was fine with this weekend, as long as he picked up the skids Sat.  I also explained why: the eldest (16 YO) has been getting herself into teenage trouble over the last few years, including as recently as two months ago.  

Truly dumb teenage stuff:

- getting caught vaping at school (its wrong for kids anywhere, but what was worse is she was warned by the school there was a rumor she was doing this and to knock off any bad behavior and she kept on going until she got busted at the end of the school year)

-early this summer she and a friend were caught stealing vodka and beer from her mom 

- much more minor but annoying to me: after being repeatedly told not to eat candy or any food in her room - they can eat anywhere else, but due to bugs just not in their rooms, I just found dozens of candy wrappers smooshed behind/under her bed when doing a deep cleaning before guests were coming.  

So I have no reason to want this bundle of joy in my house when no one is home.  I’ve even told him I would be fine with the other two as they have proven themselves trustworthy, just not the eldest.

Instead, somehow between yesterday and two weeks ago when he ageeed to getting them Sat, they are coming tonight. He’s just going to lock up the booze (our bar doesn’t have a lock), but adding one seems become beyond his capabilities now that Friday is here. 

So I spent time this morning before work, pissed off that he can’t just stick to an agreement, or agree to an easier weekend when someone is home, attaching a lock set to a cabinet door of mine that I will be putting booze, adult toys, and anything else that could possibly be a temptation, in myself.

He will be buying me drinks all night long to boot, so I stop thinking about his teen in my house alone.

Please note: I do not hate this kid, nor think she is anything other than a dumb teen (which everyone is in one way or another at that age).  I am the homeowner though, and don’t want the liability that comes with dumb teen behavior.  Especially when it is unnecessary and could easily be avoided.

I could also fight harder, but frankly I can control my emotions better and still have a good time.  If I fought, I’d have a giant man baby on my hands.  So I’m choosing path of least resistance so I can still have fun tonight.

But I want to vent to people who understand...