I have never done this, but I need help!!! Maybe someone out there knows what I can do? My man and I have been together for almost six years. We both have a son from a previous relationship, mine is 10 his is 61/2, we have a 4 yr old daughter also. His sons mom has recently (last year or so) become a heroin addict. At first I wasn't even allowed to see my stepson, it took a few years for her to stop breastfeeding and that was her main reason why he couldn't stay overnight. She has lost everything, home, job, car...all of it. Now we have him full time.