Help!!! My stepsons mom is on heroin, how do I help him cope with her leaving him???!!?!
I have never done this, but I need help!!! Maybe someone out there knows what I can do? My man and I have been together for almost six years. We both have a son from a previous relationship, mine is 10 his is 61/2, we have a 4 yr old daughter also. His sons mom has recently (last year or so) become a heroin addict. At first I wasn't even allowed to see my stepson, it took a few years for her to stop breastfeeding and that was her main reason why he couldn't stay overnight. She has lost everything, home, job, car...all of it. Now we have him full time. I love him and he loves me, I'm not trying to replace his mom but she hasn't even tried to see him in almost two months. He has such bad emotional issues that it has started to effect our other kids. I'm really doing my very best to be supportive and give him extra attention while at the same time being fair to them all. I don't know what to do anymore, it's not working. He flips out over the littlest things, a certain spoon he wants or the song on the radio. I know he is adjusting but we have had him week on/week off for over a year now. I want to scream at her but I know that won't change anything. How can I keep my sanity (during his 2-3 hour crying/screaming fits) when I am trying my hardest to just keep it together myself? Daddy is at work all day and the minute he walks out of the door the fits start and stop when he gets home. Now our daughter is starting to do the same thing, please, I'm begging, has anyone got any real advice for me? Please ;(