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It isn't the Step Situation, it's the relationship

sm27's picture

When I first came to ST, I felt that I hated my ss. I felt jealous and annoyed with him (constantly demanding attention), and guilty for all of these feelings. I felt that EOW my space was invaded. I felt powerless over my living situation, I resented that my weekends with SO had to be shared with ss doing kiddie things from when he got to the apartment until he left. The frustration that resulted in all of these feelings was misdirected towards ss.

Deceitful or Therapy.

Willow2010's picture

Do you think that posting here, or anywhere on the internet, about your step family issues, and not disclosing that to your DH or SO, is deceitful.

I can see where it could be considered that way, but I don’t. I look at this as my therapy, and I darn sure would not tell DH what I was talking to my therapist about.

Now if I was on here trolling for some booty…that would be deceitful. But if we are all here to vent and get help, that is not deceitful, that is life/marriage saving as far as I am concerned.

O/T Stress Test

starfish's picture

Anybody out there in the medical field?? dh & i do not have regular doctors anymore and have the shittiest/most expensive of all incurance since we lost our jobs and had group insurance....

he has a family history of heart disease and due to recent stuff, i am going to get him an appointment to have a stress test. any idea how much they cost?

WE WON!!!!!!!

Sia's picture

For anyone following my story, WE WON!!!!!!! We get SD21s children today!!!! OMG I am sooooo nervous and scared and happy and scared and overwhelmed ALL at the same time! ACK!

DH is in court as we speak ironing out the details.....but, they will be w/us by supper time. I'm releived, but soooooo very nervous!

I have soooo much to do! I have to find a daycare ASAP! I can't believe what they charge! I have ZERO experience with them. Never had to use one.

O/T...as skids are not involved.

stormabruin's picture

Skids are not involved. That seems to be what's creating difficulty with DH & I. Not that we don't get along or love each other. I love being with him. Things have taken a huge turn, though, since we met, & I'm not sure either of us really knows how to carry on with each other without skids in our lives.

Making herself a statistic...

Thetis's picture

Well we thought BM was doing good and starting to get her stuff together. Hahaha. She is now expecting her second "ooopsies" since the birth of her first. The first Ooopsies was "taken care of" but I think she is planning on keeping this baby, since it is all over FB that she's pregnant. I wish she could have waited another month so me and DH could meet our unborn LO, before having to worry about SD's life being drastically changed across the board.

Here we go again...

redheaded_stepmom's picture

So, SD15 has an AWESOME, most teens would kill for, job this summer at the local pool working with kids in the weekly summer camp program. She is supposed to be working Tuesday through Friday, 7:30am to 12:30pm. Today I get up and she is still sleeping in bed. When I woke her up, she informed me that she and another girl switched shifts for today and that she doesn't have to be at work until 12:30. Okay, I'm fine with that, sounds like she is being responsible and getting things done on her own. Good for her, I think to myself. What was I thinking?

Step-Vent

justastepdad's picture

I apologize in advance for this vent/rant.

I'm 24 years old and I'm married to my DW with two skids (4 and 5). I feel often like some of the nice things about life that I completely took for granted when I was single or with someone that didn't have children have completely gone away and won't come back for a long time.

Things like..

Everytime we discuss them, it turns into an arguement...it is any wonder I can't stand them???

warrior19's picture

Seriously? Last night while boyfriend and I were finally alone, I thought I would share some of my epiphanies about our situation. He has been pissed at me in the past because I "vent" too much about his kids. So, I thought it would be a positive thing to tell him that I have been talking more to my girlfriends and using this site as a way to deal with my feelings. Well, I should have known...another argument! (By the way, the kids are about the only thing we ever disagree about!)

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