We've had SS15 at our house for a week now (his choice). Friday night, SO and I went out with friends to a baseball game. Throughout the evening, SS15 called me to check in, see how it was going, etc. SO even made the comment "What? Did he forget my phone number?" LOL

Now, we've always let SS15 make the decision when and where he wants to be. We do have a CO visitation but at 15, we feel he can pretty much decide who's house he wants to be at and for how long. BM treats SS15 like he's 5 and feels she needs to "tell/demand" him what he needs to be doing 24/7.

I am re-reading a book I had to read for a psych class a long time ago and it's so good and so fitting to my situation and a lot of the situations I read about on here that I thought I would mention it. It's called "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me!" It explains the history of Borderline Personality Disorder, how and why they think people get it, how to treat it and how to deal with having someone in your life (good or bad) that has it. It's really interesting because it tries to take you into the mindset of someone with this disorder and it makes it a lot easier to understand.

Here's a quick summary..
My SD(12) has been peeing in her pants for 6 years now. She has been to a few different doctors and there is nothing physically wrong with her. BM says that I "make" her do it. DH and I have tried everything but she keeps doing it. I have used up every bit of patience with her, she is determined to drive me crazy.
DH and I have asked her a million times to please rinse out her pants and panties and to not just throw them on her bedroom floor. They stink and I would have to wash them separate from everyone else's (yes, it really is that stinky!)

How long do you have to wait to go back to court, when you just had court?

So, my ss11 was telling my MIL how he is mad at this father because before he had to move away for work, he chose to not see the skids due to their soccer schedule. That he blamed the skids for playing a sport.
MIL was shocked, she asked, where did you get THAT from? SS11 says, mom told me!!!!!

MIL immediately set ss11 straight. She said, your father took you every other weekend. That is his visitation. You went to his house (we lived in different states from them) at least twice a month or for 4 days a month.

SS14 has been out of control since I've been with DH, as puberty hits it has gotten worse. We have holes in our walls, door torn off the hinges, beats the tar out of the 9yr old, was suspended from school last year 4 times for fighting. I have seen him get in DH's face and taunt him. So...DH had 1yr. to either get this kid help or send him to live with BM. Well...nothing was done and I did the 'ultimatum' of 'bring him back in this house and I am leaving'. I don't like ultimatums, it took a lot to get me to this point.

SD and I were talking tonite and she was telling me about her trip with her BM and SF and brother. She was saying how SF was acting like a jerk and calling her fat and just saying some cruel things to her..... anyway, she also told me about an incident that happened at BM's house about a month ago that involves her brother. She told me that at a party BM & SF had, that her brother got so drunk, that he got alcohol poisoning and BM called 911 and an ambulance took him to the hospital.

In seven days, we will be dumping Princess at her dorm. (And a sigh of relief was heard...)

In seven days, I will be back in work mode, starting teachers' meetings before the students begin on the 19th.

In seven days, I will be the only woman in the house.

In seven days, my house will show no sign of all the cleaning I did over the summmer.

My ss11 just came to the door to inform me that my bio was stuck under the bunkbed. Why she was there in the first place I have no clue. When I walk into the room, sd14 is just standing in the middle of the room staring at my daughter. No attempt from her whatsoever to help my bio. Keep in mind that my sd is taller then me and probably outweighs me by atleast 10 pounds. Also for the past several days I have had to wear my knee brace because my knee has been bothering me alot lately. I had to lift the end of the bunkbed so my daughter could get unstuck.

Step son returns home. Sort of an attitude but we give him the transition time. All was well until today. He gets a punishment for lying..at which point he starts to spout off everything his BM said about us the week prior....that we are taking her money...translation Child support. This SS is 15 when is he going to or is he ever going to see his mother for what she is. He just keeps pushing and pushing today. I want to scream! How do I deal with this woman. Should I have my husband stop seeking child support?