We've had SS15 at our house for a week now (his choice). Friday night, SO and I went out with friends to a baseball game. Throughout the evening, SS15 called me to check in, see how it was going, etc. SO even made the comment "What? Did he forget my phone number?" LOL

Now, we've always let SS15 make the decision when and where he wants to be. We do have a CO visitation but at 15, we feel he can pretty much decide who's house he wants to be at and for how long. BM treats SS15 like he's 5 and feels she needs to "tell/demand" him what he needs to be doing 24/7.

So, BM calls SS15 yesterday morning telling him that he needed to come home. Wouldn't give him a reason as to why when SS15 asked. I could hear that SS15 was getting annoyed with BM by his tone of voice. I hear SS15 say "whatever" :jawdrop: He would NEVER say this to SO or me, EVER! I'm thinking "hmmmm...is he losing respect for BM???"

I went out with some friends and when I got home SS15 was still here. I asked SO about it and he said SS15 called BM and told her he wanted to stay here until Monday. SO asked SS15 when he wanted to come back and SS15 said "Tuesday".

BM's house is nothing but a party, drunk fighting, etc. We only drink socially and our get-togethers with friends don't end up in a drunken brawl. It's peaceful at our home and I've always told SO that SS15 looks at our home as his sanctuary.

I just find it...hmmm, what's the word...ironic? That we've never really said anything to SS15 about BM, her lifestyle and what goes on at her house and he's starting to figure things out on his own. Of course, BM will blame us for SS15 not wanting to be with her--he couldn't POSSIBLY have a mind of his own! But, I'm glad to see that SS15 is chosing the path of our lives and not that of his BM and her boyfriend's.

Guess we'll just have to continue to sit back and see what happens. I have a feeling though that within the year SS15 will insist to be with us full time. I know SS15 "loves" his BM but I think he's beginning to not "like" her.