So where do i start i an newly married...about 3mths now. we have been together for 4 years total...my DH and i just found out he has a 14 year old daughter from a one night stand when he was 23! i hate that i have to deal with this situation and i find my self slightly depressed @ times when i think about it! I feel bad for the child because it certainly isn her fault but in some ways i am so happy they live so far away from us! i would appreciate some coping advice on how to deal with this situation...thanks

so last night i made a special dinner for dh, ss & myself.... anyhoo, when ss finished dinner, he says "thank you starfish, that was really good!" so enthusiastically and sincere...

awwww, he's always been my favorite in spite of hom much i bitch about him, too..

so, now i'm in good spirits and all i have to do is get thru tonight with both skids then skid-free until next wednesday.....

wahoo!!

I'm new...looking for a place to vent, but also for an objective opinion. I'm not sure I know all of your abbreviations, but will do my best! I'll save the full background history for another time, but wanted a little advice on a situation I've been irritated by for a while that kind of came to a head today. Very long story short, my husband and I have been married 2 1/2 years, but have known each other for almost 20. We both have children from other marriages; mine - 2 boys, ages 6 and 9; his - one boy, age 7. We each have 50/50 custody with our ex-spouses.

How is that there are members who only comment albeit extremely harsh, on other people's posts but don't blog their own events? Are these the BMs to watch out for?

S-Talkers,

Check this out.

This is a very cool letter from a BioMom to a StepMom that I just found on StepFamily Letter Project.

Enjoy,

Best regards,
Rags

Dear stepmom
•August 10, 2010 • 1 Comment

I just dropped my son off with you so he can live his dad and I’m not overlooking the fact that you will be taking care of him as well.

I just got the news from my mother an hour ago and I'm trying to keep it together.

My father has not yet been fully tested but the doctor gave him a preliminary diagnosis of the onset of Parkinson's today. He had a small seizure over the weekend and my mother was able to get him into an appointment today. This is the second seizure he's had in about 10 months. They are going to run tests but the doctor noticed the tremor in my father's hand. He wants to wait for the results before giving them any further information or a prognosis.

Here's the scoop. I'm divorced with an 11 year old son whose father doesn't want to have anything to do with him AND his father lost all parental rights anyway. I'm dating my best friend, whom I've known for 13 years, we've been dating for 2.5 years. He has a daugter who is 8 1/2. I've known her mom as well for 13 years and we have NEVER liked each other. A couple of months after we started dating, my boyfriend moved in with me. A couple months later, October to be exact, his daughter was abandoned on our front porch, by her mother.

I saw a trailer for a soon to be released movie I'd really like to see called "Cyrus." It seems like it deals with the nightmares of dealing with an adult stepchild. The two "parents" are played by John C. Reilly and Marissa Tomei and the stepkid is that chubby guy from Superbad. From what I gathered from the trailer it seems to be done in a comical, yet real and touching way. Sort of like "The Squid and the Whale" which if you haven't seen that - it's an awesome look at a marriage with children that breaks up and how they all deal with it.

Do any of you have this problem?:
Grandparents treating grandchildren very differently... a) Doting over new baby (yours and DH/DW) and b)slighting the children of DH and BM (i.e. your stepkids)

We actually live with DH's parents right now. So the stepkids come every weekend and were here for a few days extra this summer. Their preference is blatant. Grandparents exude LOVE for baby, and the stepkids are tolerated. Grandma tries to pretend there's love, but the difference in love for stepkids and love for baby is so prominent. Grandpa barely even tries to pretend.

So here goes......I'm new here and not sure how this all works. I'm living with a man who has two children girl 13 and boy 9. I have two children girl 21 and boy 19. Non of whom get along. We've tried combined vacations to no avail. Most of our problems stem from his 13 year old gaughter who never seems to be happy, no matter what anyone does for her. It seems she continuously tries to cause arguments in our home.