She's been getting on my nerves for many, many reasons these last few weeks. For example, we discovered last week (due to notices sent from the bank) that she has bounced MANY checks this summer. When looking into her bank records with her, we discovered she made over $1500 since May at her summer job. Great, right? She spent just under $1900! :jawdrop: She was borrowing from her savings account to cover her butt. She blew threw every penny she made, plus her whole savings account. Just since Graduation on May 15.

I'm a total tabloid junkie,and I was just checking out the latest on TMZ. Yeah, the courts are giving Janine (Jesse's porn star, drug using, felon-marrying, crazy ass ex) weekend overnight visitations. She gets her every weekend, starting after school on Fridays.

FDH only see's SD6 EOW b/c BM is a lying POS.

Ugh...I know life isn't fair, but sometimes it just plain sucks!

I need some suggestions as to how to deal with a crazy BM. I always knew the BM was going to be an issue but it keeps getting worse and worse. BM's perspective is that she is more important than anybody else because she is the MOTHER. The child's father is nothing more than a monthly paycheck (that she tells the SD he hardley ever gives her even though he often gives it to her EARLY to bail her out)...even though he is the rational & responsible parent.

So, it's Facebook official. BM has this posted on her page...

BM , your DEMON Name is...
Azanigin - Mother of all demons who lie waiting in Earth in the pantheon of the Order of the Nine Angles.

I KNEW IT!!! LOL!

ss15 went home Saturday morning and DH and I have had a wonderful time. We went shopping and I bought a few things to make things easier on DH and I when we're working outside. It was a very relaxing few days that were left of the skid weekend. I wish DH would see the stress SS15 causes. he said it was the best week the two of them have had in a long time, i'm thinking it was the worst I've ever had. i'm still reading stepmonster when i can find 5 minutes to do it.

We've had SS15 at our house for a week now (his choice). Friday night, SO and I went out with friends to a baseball game. Throughout the evening, SS15 called me to check in, see how it was going, etc. SO even made the comment "What? Did he forget my phone number?" LOL

Now, we've always let SS15 make the decision when and where he wants to be. We do have a CO visitation but at 15, we feel he can pretty much decide who's house he wants to be at and for how long. BM treats SS15 like he's 5 and feels she needs to "tell/demand" him what he needs to be doing 24/7.

I am re-reading a book I had to read for a psych class a long time ago and it's so good and so fitting to my situation and a lot of the situations I read about on here that I thought I would mention it. It's called "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me!" It explains the history of Borderline Personality Disorder, how and why they think people get it, how to treat it and how to deal with having someone in your life (good or bad) that has it. It's really interesting because it tries to take you into the mindset of someone with this disorder and it makes it a lot easier to understand.

Here's a quick summary..
My SD(12) has been peeing in her pants for 6 years now. She has been to a few different doctors and there is nothing physically wrong with her. BM says that I "make" her do it. DH and I have tried everything but she keeps doing it. I have used up every bit of patience with her, she is determined to drive me crazy.
DH and I have asked her a million times to please rinse out her pants and panties and to not just throw them on her bedroom floor. They stink and I would have to wash them separate from everyone else's (yes, it really is that stinky!)

How long do you have to wait to go back to court, when you just had court?

So, my ss11 was telling my MIL how he is mad at this father because before he had to move away for work, he chose to not see the skids due to their soccer schedule. That he blamed the skids for playing a sport.
MIL was shocked, she asked, where did you get THAT from? SS11 says, mom told me!!!!!

MIL immediately set ss11 straight. She said, your father took you every other weekend. That is his visitation. You went to his house (we lived in different states from them) at least twice a month or for 4 days a month.