In light of another's blog, it got me to thinking.

I have a fairly volatile temper. I can get angry in a flash, but just as quickly my temper subsides. I blame it on being an Aries.

I spent a lot of time in college figuring out what set me off and what I should do to avoid "blowing up". I majored in Psychology, so that definitely helped.

Bm is crazy. She is making me crazy too now. My favorite daydream is the one where I'm pushing her car over a cliff with her locked inside with all her zoloft flying around as the car tumbles down and down. Is crazy catching? Lol

For those Canadians in the bunch...

http://news.ca.msn.com/local/britishcolumbia/article.aspx?cp-documentid=...

Maybe we should be hunting down the MP whose supporting a change in legislation for improved father's rights.

If you read my last blog, you will better understand this one. DH went home yesterday and told SD to either learn to respect people (Me and Him) or move out. He flat out told her that she was being an arse and she needed to learn how to treat people with respect.

You are NEVER going to believe what her reply was......
She said she doesn't say "thank you" to people and such b/c that is what they expect her to do.... WTF????

BB always puts down DH and keeps saying that her now DH walks on water. (he seems ok - has done and said some weird things in the past to the kids, but who hasn't).

I, on the other hand cannot be compared to her DH as a stepparent. Mind you I am nothing but nice - it's just her jealousy talking.

My husband and I have been married for 5 years and he has three adult children that live all across the US. When we first got married we all made a big effort to get together 2 or 3 times a year, usually at holidays. As the children have moved on, our "family" time together is almost non-existent. I've seen my two SDs once in the last 18 months. The trouble is that my husband doesn't encourage them to spend time with us, but if he gets a hint that they might have a couple of days free he drops what he's doing to go see them. Often I can't go along because of work and other issues.

This ties in with my last post about SM doing the communication regarding my son's visit with his dad. I'm trying not to come accross as a crazy BM but I'd like for my position to be clear.

Suddenly I am the bad guy and SD12 actually told me last month that im a mutha effing B! Screamed it over and over at me after I had told all 3 kids (my own included) to settle down. This happened the first weekend in May when DH wasn't home. There has been no consequences for this outide of her phone being taken away. Its actually worked out in her favor because now he is spending more time with them and bending over backwards, thinking extra love is the way to help her behavior (and he can't stand the idea of either girls being mad at him).

This child will not be quiet....she feels that she has to talk every second of every hour, of every day!! It's always about her...She interrupts, she's loud and gets louder if you're not paying attention to her at that very moment. My BF and I include ALL the kids in about everything we do, we don't want them to feel excluded but there comes a time when it's just 'adult stuff'(topic of conversations...etc.) She wants to know EVERYTHING!! She could be in another room and if she didn't quite get what you said, she comes over and asks 'what?, what did you say?'

Let's pretend that the perfect stepparenting situation is attainable. What things would be happening? Here's what I've come up with so far - add your thoughts!

1. Your significant other is appreciative of all the little things you do that you don't *have* to do.

2. You and your significant other agree on (most) parenting strategies.

3. Your significant other and his or her ex split amicably and there are no (or very few) hard feelings.

4. There is no personal ill intents between the stepparent and the ex, regardless of the past.