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lannel717's picture

Sad I am to the end of my rope. I honestly don't know what else to do. I am soooo sick of my bratty stepdaughter getting by with EVERYTHING while my son is constantly in trouble. My stepbrat doesn't live with us, but we have her almost every wknd, and weeks at a time in the simmer. I try really hard to "stand" her, but I'm not a fake person, and it's really getting harder and harder to tolerate her. She's 6 and my son is 7.

What do you call your stepchildren??

trixilox's picture

I have been in my stepdaughter's life for 5 years. I have always treated her and loved her as my own. Although I will never be her mother nor want to replace her mother I call her my daughter. I feel as if calling her my "stepdaughter" is an insult to her and to my husband. I feel that I would be saying that I don't think that she is a part of my life and that just because I didn't give birth to her that she is not mine. I think that it is insulting to treat her as differently than our other 2 sons.

I'm giving SD the dress in a few minutes....

3bk1sd's picture

I feel a bit nervous, LOL. Everyone I've shown it to says it's absolutely perfect. I took twice as long to make it as I usually do as I suspect BM will really inspect it, lol. SD just needs to try it on and I'll need to adjust the straps and that's it, she's taking it home with her tonight. (She's just coming for supper, I invited her to make sure the dress fits and because it's fathers day). I can't wait to see the reaction. BM won't like it but I didn't make it for her.

Happy Father's Day to BD and SD!!

trysohard's picture

Days like today I only wish I could be a little girl again and love on my father. He is a great man that I wish I could spend more time with. Even though he is still living, we just don't live close anymore. I saw the sacrifice he made for me and my siblings growing up but didn't realize how much he was sacrificing until I grew up and too have had to do the same.

As each of you spend today with your children and skids...cherish these moments. You never know when they grow up how far away you may be with them. Give them those memories my father and SF gave to me.

Can anyone explain this? Experienced this?

AlexandraL's picture

I'm still trying to make sense of things after my breakup. I'm wondering if anyone has felt what I am going to describe or has been with someone who has felt this way: the feeling that starting a new couple's unit/family unit is a betrayal to the biochild(ren) and the previous unit of ex-spouse/ex-spouse/child.

I included "children" in my description but I really am thinking "only child".

Why is it sooooo difficult for everyone to get along???

annoyed's picture

Ok I guess since my hubby is over his kids just calling for money so he ignores them and we dont send it, now my SD deletes me off facebook......I guess cause she knows I manage the money and it is more than likely my decision not to send it??? This crap is soooooo frustrating.....Grow up....I did not always get everything I wanted as a child and especially if I treated my father like they do....

Nightmares All Night ... Feel Like a Child

TheOtherMom's picture

I watched "Stepmom" before I went to bed to catch up on that homework assignment. I had to watch the damn thing twice so I could analyze it properly. Bottom line: good plot but REALLY cheesy script. I try to forgive it by saying it was a 90's movie but Schindler's List came out in the 90's and it is phenomenal.
So anyway, I had nightmares all night because of this movie (I think ...).

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