Hello everybody

Im so happy to have found a group of people that share the same experiences that I have been, I look forward to sharing thoughts and tips on how to deal with issues or just make life a little easier,

I think before you get involved with someone with a kid, you should have to sign a waiver that goes into detail about all the emotional stress and anxiety that no one tells you about until its too late. I hate being a "backseat parent". My fiance has a four year old who I absolutely adore. He started preschool earlier this year at the Y where his BM also works. At some point the teachers said he wasn't listening and they thought he had ADHD because he wouldn't sit during circle time and wouldn't stay in line etc.

Horrible Right?!?

Before you read this, please no that My husband is fully aware that I want to get pregnant. He is fully aware that are relationship is on the rocks. We have full conversations about this all the time. NO ONE IS BEING LIED TO OR MISLEAD.

I know that I am going to get a lot of criticism for this. It is going to sound really horrible, irresponsible and maybe even a little desperate.

So BM's main complaints that she brought up in court were... We feed SS4 too healthy, and we challenge him intellectually... I KID YOU NOT PEOPLE!

I guess this was her feeble attempt at defending a couple minor complaints we made. Which was that she feeds him unhealthy (pop tarts for breakfast, pizza for dinner, and only Buddha know what for lunch!) And that whenever we call, morning, afternoon, evening he's always watching TV. Violent shows I might add...

as i have mentioned, things have been very peaceful and pleasant on the bm front, as far as our interactions with her.... however we have been hearing from ss that he is upset at things at his moms house, and "something is bothering him" every time we get ss back from bm's he has a new scratch or injury, from either playing out side, falling on gravel, etc. all things have been chalked up to the fact that he is a 5 yo boy and bumps and bruises are going to happen....but for some reason its only happening at bm's house?!

Bm has only supervised visits with 5yo SD, and has been that way almost a year now.

At SD's supervised visit with BM, Bm pulled out SD's very loose tooth. DH and I were happy for SD and told her so. after the tooth fairy came, SD announced, "BM is going to write a note to the tooth fairy and put it under her pillow and get me some more money!"

DH and I were furious, not because she wants to give Sd money, but because we feel the visit from the tooth fairy is supposed to be a special experience for SD and she shouldn't have to be one up'd by her own mother.

In light of another's blog, it got me to thinking.

I have a fairly volatile temper. I can get angry in a flash, but just as quickly my temper subsides. I blame it on being an Aries.

I spent a lot of time in college figuring out what set me off and what I should do to avoid "blowing up". I majored in Psychology, so that definitely helped.

Bm is crazy. She is making me crazy too now. My favorite daydream is the one where I'm pushing her car over a cliff with her locked inside with all her zoloft flying around as the car tumbles down and down. Is crazy catching? Lol

For those Canadians in the bunch...

http://news.ca.msn.com/local/britishcolumbia/article.aspx?cp-documentid=...

Maybe we should be hunting down the MP whose supporting a change in legislation for improved father's rights.

If you read my last blog, you will better understand this one. DH went home yesterday and told SD to either learn to respect people (Me and Him) or move out. He flat out told her that she was being an arse and she needed to learn how to treat people with respect.

You are NEVER going to believe what her reply was......
She said she doesn't say "thank you" to people and such b/c that is what they expect her to do.... WTF????