Has the tooth fairy ever given YOU money for your child's tooth when he/she wasn't even there?
Bm has only supervised visits with 5yo SD, and has been that way almost a year now.
At SD's supervised visit with BM, Bm pulled out SD's very loose tooth. DH and I were happy for SD and told her so. after the tooth fairy came, SD announced, "BM is going to write a note to the tooth fairy and put it under her pillow and get me some more money!"
DH and I were furious, not because she wants to give Sd money, but because we feel the visit from the tooth fairy is supposed to be a special experience for SD and she shouldn't have to be one up'd by her own mother.
DH told BM how we feel and she got angry of course. BM's mother told DH it makes BM feel better because she's missing out on being with SD. Well, I can see how it must be painful, but it was BM doing things only because they make her feel good that caused her to only have supervised visits with SD.
Dh and I have no desire to hurt SD by calling her mother a liar, but we feel it is our right to teach SD about the tooth fairy in the way we believe to be fair to her, and her sister from Dh and I together. BM has no interest in co-parenting or being on the same page, we on the other hand, consult her and consider her in all things we consider important.
We have expressed our opinion to BM, if she follows through with telling SD the toothfairy left money under BM's pillow and SD asks us about it we intend to tell SD the toothfairy the tooth fairy does not leave money under grown ups pillows. The tooth fairy is only for children, and only leaves money under the pillow of the child who has lost a tooth. We do not know why BM would say something like that, she must be joking.
I would love some feedback if anyone has an opinion or a similar experience.