How have the rest of you dealt with bm's refusing vistiation against the court order.

BF was told by the GAL to contact ss by cell phone to begin to gain some trust in the relationship and to take what ever time is available with ss.

Sounds okay if Bm does not interfer but of course that continues.

I am taking a Sociology Course about Families in Transition. My research paper is about Step Parents. Sadly, ST is not a valid website for material but it is definitely good for examples of problem situations.
At any rate, I found out that there are at least 5 problems that BM and I have and I am committed to fixing them so as to avoid the mere grief that send me to this site to vent.

http://www.stepfamilymagazine.com/2008/06/25/blended-family-problems-21-...

Ok so my husband pay's 750.00 a month for child support and we have now had the boys for 2 weeks. We have had to make TWO 18 hour trips..One to get them and now one to bring them home because BM doesnt have her own car and even if she did she wouldnt meet us halfway.

I'm sitting here crying my eyes out in frustration, pain, and helplessness. I don't know what to do anymore. Tonight, DH and I caught SD15 sneaking her bf into her room. That boy had the nerve to come in our basement door at 10:30 at night, while we were still awake (I was in my BKs room right next to SDs room with the door open!)! At first I thought it might have been DH that I saw go in her room, but something about it just didn't feel right to me, so I got up from the floor and went downstairs to check. DH was sitting in our living room playing a game.

I didn't have to wait too long. Last night DH told SD11 that we were going out this morning at 10am. There is a festival in town and he wanted to go to it. It was also a beautiful sunny day and we did not want to waste it sitting around the house.
DH can't get downstairs to the kids rooms as he has a wheelchair, I do not get involved in waking up SD as she would become irrate and call her mother, it's better if I just stay out of it.

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Just got back from the wedding without Mr. Kate.

Recap: I drove to my parents for a wedding by myself because Mr. Kate's daughter wanted to visit him on Saturday and I didn't want to take her on the 10+ hour drive, or add an uninvited guest to the ceremony 3-4 days before showing up. I told Mr. Kate that a 10 year-old shouldn't be dictating his (and by association, my) schedule. His argument was that with the start of the custody battle, he's only able to see his daughter weekends and Wednesdays now. Previously she came over whenever she wanted (weekends and 2-3 weekdays)...

Or do you think that this isn't her job, because she's not our kids parent? Do you think she should be encouraging the skids to call our kids on their b-days, holidays, and to congratulate them when something big happens?

In the most recent custody agreements I've seen in several states, visitation is no longer called "visitation" but called "parenting time" instead. I think this change was intended to facilitate a situation where the child does not feel like and is not treated like a "visitor" when spending time in the NCP's home, but rather like it is a second home. Unfortunately this also assumes that the NCP will actually "PARENT" during their "parenting time" rather than treating it like a sleep over.

Loghead KNEW he was supposed to arrive for my family reunion at 2:00 today so he could be here for the July 4th golfcart parade...

I just got back from running around with my cousins, and there's a message from him from noon that says he's sick and he just woke up. He says he has to stop by and help his sister with something, so he won't be here until about 6:00.