We Need a Visitation Schedule
Just got back from the wedding without Mr. Kate.
Recap: I drove to my parents for a wedding by myself because Mr. Kate's daughter wanted to visit him on Saturday and I didn't want to take her on the 10+ hour drive, or add an uninvited guest to the ceremony 3-4 days before showing up. I told Mr. Kate that a 10 year-old shouldn't be dictating his (and by association, my) schedule. His argument was that with the start of the custody battle, he's only able to see his daughter weekends and Wednesdays now. Previously she came over whenever she wanted (weekends and 2-3 weekdays)...
So, I left yesterday morning. Last night, Mr. Kate tells me that that night when he went to go pick up his daughter, her mom said that she wasn't allowed to go. So Mr. Kate is now home alone, and I am at my parents without him for no reason. I told him that I was pretty ticked off that my plans were screwed up because of all this. His reply was that if he gets custody (and I don't see that happening) then he can have his daughter whenever he wants. Then I tell him that its not really BM changing things up that ticks me off (though it does, a little), but that its not going to matter if he gets custody or not because it appears that he's going to run all of his plans through his daughter anyway.
As far as I can tell, BF is pretty much only communicating with BM at this point through his daughter. I'm 95% sure that BM didn't know about my plans...some communication between the two may have cleared this whole mess up. I just think he is, and will continue, to give his daughter too much say in our plans.