I plan on having a bday party for my daughter, however stepson bday also falls in the same month as my daughter. I would like to include his celebration also w/my daughter's. I don't know if I should combine the two because I will not be inviting any of stepson's friends or family on biomom side.
Well, my stepson left Fri. for Colorado with biomom for two weeks. We are a little concerned about her being in charge of a 2, 10 and 16 year old, by herself.
Sure enough, problems have started already. Stepson called tonight and said he had a problem and his mom told him to call his dad. Why, I don't know! We are like 1,000 miles away. Stepson said that his tooth is loose and he can't get his retainer in. We were at a loss as to what to do over the phone. We told him that he just had to try and put it in until he got it. I don't know if they were looking for our permission to stop wearing the retainer for 2 weeks or what.
Here is something to show you that the dynamics of what some people try to label as dysfunctional families finally does get turned around. My sister, who was originally married to a man, and later divorced him, and started an alternate lifestyle and relationship with women, years ago (almost ten years ago) gave my Mom a very traumatic and difficult time when my parents allowed me to come back and stay with them after my ex-husband (an alcoholic) and I separated and I subsequently filed divorce papers. I stayed with them for about four months and paid rent. I also worked during that time as well. My younger sister was also married at that time a (JAP) pardon the pun, my brother in laws's family was comfortable, and the inlaws gave them the family home. My younger sister also was in agreement with my older sister and they had always been quite tight. I was always the outsider. In any event, they had upset my mother so much to the point that they called her on the phone and upset her so much she was distraught and in tears. Needless to say, there was not much said afterwards, and they pretty much went their separate ways. My mom and I have always remained very close through the years, and in fact, my parents, did travel back from NC to attend our wedding. Actually, my husband is very close to my parents, especially since he is not particularly close to his own mother. In any event, just recently this past week, I was getting some information together was I am Executor of my parents estate, and I have a 21 year old brother who is autistic. Needless to say, if something were to happen, arrangements would need to be made, and my husband and I already have things in place for him to move in with us. However, it does seem that death, morbidity, or however, you'd like to refer to it, always seems to bring out the worst in people. And in this case, I expect that both my sisters would come crawling from under their respective rocks. My older sister left her relationship with one woman, only to go to the next, and quit that relationship, and then go back to the same one fifteen years later, but lose the house she started out with in the first place. And my younger sister, has moved out of her home that she had with my brother in law, they are separated, my niece is now eighteen and graduating, and my neice can't stand her. All those times and years that I had nothing and struggled, just seem like they were for naught, because here both of them are starting all over at the beginning again just like I had to do. Isn't life amazing?
Well, I feel like we are getting to the end of the season shows. I am having so much trouble with my 15 yr old poodle being @@##**!!!!! and ^^&&%%@@!!!!! that I've had to mop my kitchen floor 3 separate times this weekend. Of course, that's after I had to put on gloves over my blistering hands, ouch!
My husband gave the green light to our 17 year old son to spend the weekend away with his 14 year old girlfriend and her family. Now they are going to expect the same whenever they ask.
Everyone knows how I feel, or maybe they're clueless.
I got a new blow torch for my hands---to burn off this stinking dermatitis!!!!! Seriously, the doctor said the other medication was junk and not strong enough. So, he is putting me some steroid cream at least twice as strong that I apply 4 times a day. (I'll probably have a beard in a week ) LOL I go back in 2 weeks for a follow up to make sure all is well, if not sooner if I am having problems. You can visibly see the changes the medication is having on the skin after it is applied. It burns really bad but I am trying to bear with it because I want to get rid of this so much!
Just wanted to share this with you all, it just reminded me of how much I love my 5 year old daughter. For mother's day she gave me a laminated poster of a poem and her handprints all over it and even drew herself on the poster.
My husband got another call from my stepsons GF's father. You know the 14 year old girlfriend. These people aren't stupid either, they don't ask me they ask my husband. I told them my feelings on it, and they ask again. This is like when kids play the parents.
Well, you can probably tell by the title, I am day late, and dollar short. I seem to be fighting furiously with this stinking dermatitis. It either itches very badly or it's blistering and burning. I don't know what's worse. But I have a doctor's appointment first thing in the morning, thankfully. I am trying to hard to control myself and not scratch, like mind over matter. And it's damned difficult.
Just thought I get your opinion on this. Father's day is coming up next month, it looks like stepson will be w/biomom that weekend. I wanted to take my husband w/kids to dinner for Father's day. I also wanted to include stepson to dinner, would you invite biomom to dinner too since stepson is going to be her that weekend? What would you do? I don't have a close relationship w/biomom, I just feel like if I invite her she might end up getting jealous and see that our life is good and what would the conversation be like? I don't know what to talk about with her? Need your input.