I have never blogged before. I am a stepmom to a wonderful 9 year old girl. However, she has daddy wrapped around her finger like you wouldn't believe! When it's just her and I, she's wonderful, well behaved, happy and even mature for her age. But when dad's around, she's whiny, asks to be waited on, manipulates, lies, and acts like she's 2. I'm on the outside looking in and see these 2 different sides of her. Daddy just caters to her like she's a princess, despite discussions we've had about how she's acting.

So this is my First blog. I only have a few mins so I will add a back story later. I have a SS4 who lives with us most of the time. His mom is EOW now because he started school this year. He was fairly difficult to potty train Mostly I think because he goes from House to House. However he had not pooped his pants for at least 8mo or so and then before school started he spent and entire week with his BM uninterupted for the first time since she left him when he was 14mo.

BM's been lying to us, to our daycare provider, and to her daughter's bio dad.

About a year ago, when SD5 (not fiance's actual daughter) and SS3 first started going to this new daycare, I remember DF remarking that BM put his name as SD's biological father. He kind of shrugged it off. About a month or two ago, after some strange comments from other daycare parents, I told DF that I don't think daycare knows that SD has a "real" dad and it's not you! He shrugged it off again, saying that he was sure they knew.

It is funny. Yes, I'm pissed, but I can admit its funny. And get this- Loghead tried to write the calves off as an "anniversary present." I don't know who is crazier- him or me, for marrying him?!

Goodness, when we met he was all "straight laced" business man type, but he has turned into a Green Acres kinda guy. Wanted the kids to have the same kind of upbringing on a farm (which he always described as though he hated) so 5 years ago, we moved back to the town where he was raised, and got this place, five minutes down the road from his parents.

Well, SS finally pushed me too far and I let lose on DH. He broke something in my house that should have been avoided. He has been told over and over not to do a certain something and he just continued until he finally broke it. I was livid! DH was livid, but I finally told DH a lot of what was bottled up over the last several months. I have been disengaged, but SS is jerking around with the house stuff now. He listens to nothing!

It went ok except they moved the location and bm didn't bother telling us! We went to another game and was confused, dh called her and well we were at the wrong game! Dh told the ticket office what happened and he didn't even think twice and gave us our money back said he hears that a lot!

So we get to the right game and we sit one row up from them b/c bm's sis and her dh was there and wanted to talk to us. Bm was nice about everything to our face and even texted dh to tell him to tell me that she enjoyed talking to me. :sick:

My kid (SS-18) is about to be strangled and fed to the fish.

He is still the most polite, well behaved and personable kid imaginable but he is LUCKING FAZY!!!!

Since the kudos he received from the recruiters he has done what he always does after a success. He blew the doors off of his interviews with the Armed Services recruiters, aced the ASVAB, basked in the glow of the kudos and ...... has done absolutely nothing to move foreword with is life.

He has been laying around the house for two months. He does nothing until his Mom or I put our foot up his ass.

My kid (SS-18) is about to be strangled and fed to the fish.

He is still the most polite, well behaved and personable kid imaginable but he is LUCKING FAZY!!!!

Since the kudos he received from the recruiters he has done what he always does after a success. He blew the doors off of his interviews with the Armed Services recruiters, aced the ASVAB, basked in the glow of the kudos and ...... has done absolutely nothing to move foreword with is life.

He has been laying around the house for two months. He does nothing until his Mom or I put our foot up his ass.

So, my stepsons get whatever they want whenever they want. BM tries to be the "cool" parent and will take them to rated R movies, let them stay up late, buy them anything they want, etc... They are just becoming spoiled entitled brats. We had them make up lists of what they want for their birthday and Christmas and everything they want is super EXPENSIVE. But the thing is - they know they will get it. It makes me not even want to buy them anything. For example, BM bought SS13 a laptop for his birthday. Who spends $800-1000 on a birthday present?? We spent about $150 on him.

I'm reading a lot about disengaging. From the kiddos, from the ex.

I like disengaging.

She's not my exwife, I feel not a need in the world to ever see or talk to her again. I will if I must and I don't know that I truly care either way... My preference is certainly not to, but if there is no way around it? Sure.