So during the Skype convo last night she said "and you can tell THE Wifey, since I know she is listening, that she should have held her tongue and not sent that e-mail and maybe none of this would be happening" And I said and you can tell Skeletor that... And she cut me off. "THE Wifey, this is between me and FDH, not you". And I said, no, this decision is between he and I and doesn't involve you at all". Then later she said "THE Wifey, SHUT UP" when I was talking to him in the background. He said "That is unnecessary, do not talk to her like that".

Ya know your favorite shirt? The one that's been on the bathroom floor for the last week? The one I have not ONCE nagged you to pick up? I picked it up today...

It made a great toilet scrubber. No harm done. It's been washed- with color safe bleach, in case you wondered. Dried. Folded. And put back with the other clothes you're supposed to put away.

You might want to remember to put away your toothbrush... It's been on the counter for a few days now.

Love, ME

Does anyone else do subtle little things to piss off BM? I know for the most part we just want them to leave us alone, but a part of me can't help wanting to pay her back for all the crap she's given me! Today I let her believe DH bought me a brand new car! Lol It was actually a rental because our 10 year old car was in the shop, but she didn't have to know that. The look of shock and horror on her face when I pulled up to her house in it was PRICELESS!!

I have been with my SO for 3 years today, we have lived together for 1 1/2 years. He has 12 yr old daughter and 9 yr old son who live with us every other week. I have an 18 yr old son who lives with us 100%. My SO was married for about 7 yrs and his ex is bi-polar and causes us great grief (name callling, physical attacks, 20 calls in a night, talking about me to anyone she can, etc....). I was married for 18 years and have no contact with my ex (thankfully).

According to my 22 year old step daughter I'm a bitch. Lovely, what's new? It was nice of her to call the house and totally lose it over absolutely nothing and just go off about how I don't know anything about her life, that (according to her)I am lazy, a terrible mother who has no idea how to be a mother to my own two children, and just a fat bitch who can fuck off. Nice, really nice. My husband doesn't want to talk to her, but I would like for him to talk to her about this, especially since she also announced her feelings about me to the world on Facebook.

I've been reading a lot of the other bloggers, and I don't think that my problems are all that horrifying. There seems to be more tension between my FSD8 and her brother (FSSalmost4)than there is between either of them and myself.

In the beginning I think they were both very wary of me, but FDH made my position/standing pretty clear, so they gradually got used to me being around. I often felt that they thought of me more as an extension of their father rather than as an individual.

I just realized that my oldest 2 ss's unfriended me on face book. Don;t know why but they are still friends with my family just not me???? Does anyone know if that just happens sometimes b/c it doesn;t make since unless bm made them but then why would she let them still be friends with my family? :?

Okay so this past weekend DH went away and SD spent it with her BM. Yes, it was heaven. Anyways Sunday comes around and I pick up SD from her BM. Once we are home I notice that SD who is 11 has on a rather adult bra. It was riding up and showing through her shirt. I asked her to please take it off and give it to me. SD's BM bought her a padded A-cup bra. SD who is 11 is just starting to develop.

So, I recently put up my money (I earned it alone) to help add a two car garage and a bigger master bedroom to my DH's existing home. The plan: I put up the money, we do a cash, put my name on the deed, take the money from the cash out to compensate what I spent.

1. I know some of you may think I'm an idiot for putting my money in without being on the deed. You're right! I should've thought this through more carefully. .

2. SS22 lives here with us in his own room. Obviously, I want him out.

I copy & pasted it, i want everyone to see because it is so on target.

That's very, very, very typical behavior. Rather than change her, the best thing you can do is to read a few books and see professionals talk about her behavior. Then get your DH to read the books (some, like "Stepmonster" and "The Smart Stepmom" can be read in a day), so that he realizes how typical his kid's behavior is. That way, he can see his kid's behavior for what it really is, rather than continually trying to figure out what you did to deserve it. It's a shift in focus.