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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Mon, 07/09/2012 - 12:06pm

I really just wish that DH would start disciplining his children. But instead he will ignore them half the time instead of stopping their rude behaviors. I almost told him this weekend that his parenting SUCKS, i.e. there is none. He is so scared of being the bad guy that he just lets them do whatever they want. Where would you like to go eat SS? What would you like to do SS? It's disgusting. He kisses their a$$es!! Oh DS3, you can't watch the TV because your step-brother is watching something (and has been all day long).

So tired with teenage Stepson...

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 9:23am

He comes over and is so rude. He will leave to go to school and not say goodbye or anything - just walk out. He stays up in his room most of the time but if he is in the common areas and BS3 tries to talk to him, he just says leave me alone or who cares or something like that. He told me that my cooking sucked this weekend (after I had spent over an hour working on it) - thank you very much - DH yelled at him but no punishment whatsoever.

Dealing with teenage SSs

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Thu, 12/22/2011 - 11:02am

Anyone have steps that are over 16 and drive? What we are seeing is that SS16 takes every opportunity to go over to mom's house. Like if he gets out of school, he will go over to BM's house and stay there until we are calling to see where he is at. How do you handle it? It just seems like BM should be encouraging her son to want to spend time with his dad but she doesn't. SS is going through a rebellious phase and doesn't want to be over at dad's AT ALL. He has a younger brother so DH doesn't want to let him not come over because otherwise SS14 won't think he has to come over either.

Common Courtesy

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Fri, 10/14/2011 - 8:33am

Why don't BMs just have a little common courtesy and decency?? SS15 informed us today that he has to go do x tomorrow morning. BM had to sign him up and pay for it quite awhile ago. I don't have a problem with him doing x but I think she should have at least told DH about it before she signed him up since it was on our weekend. What if we had other plans? We would have needed to make other arrangements, but instead we find out the day before. GRRRR...

Oops! I think this was meant for someone else.

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Fri, 08/26/2011 - 8:08am

So I got a text message from SS15 last night saying "MT1ST2 seemed really mad about having to x. Or her and dad were fighting". I'm sure he meant to send it to BM. I am really pissed because even if I was in a bad mood or arguing with my husband it is none of her business. I am also hurt because I don't understand why he would send that to his mom anyways. This comes after a request from BM to DH asking if SS15 had to come over on the weeks we only have him one day. I haven't said anything to SS15. I haven't said anything to DH either. Should I?

Whose job is it to discipline?

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Tue, 05/31/2011 - 9:01am

Just wondering how y'all handle discipline in your houses? We had an issue with our SS this weekend and instead of DH and I discussing it he called BM and got her involved. Didn't say NOTHING to me and then finally I had to ask him the next day what had happened. Thanks bud. I just felt like there are three people in our marriage and was thinking that it really sucks that BM has so much control on what goes on at our house. I'm tired of it. Blah.

What happens when skids don't want to come over???

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Wed, 11/24/2010 - 1:26pm

My stepsons are teenagers and I am afraid that they are going to want to stop comnig over to our house - it's not as "FUN" as BM's, we have rules, we don't let them watch anything they want, we don't let them have friends over all the time, etc. I am curious as to what everybody has done?? Obviously DH's decree states that he has them every Wed and every other weekend so what happens when the kids become teenagers and don't want to follow that anymore? Do you go back to court? Do you just let things be? One thing to note - Stepkids live less than a mile from us.

How to deal with spoiling???

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Submitted by Mommyto1Stepto2 on Fri, 10/29/2010 - 1:03pm

So, my stepsons get whatever they want whenever they want. BM tries to be the "cool" parent and will take them to rated R movies, let them stay up late, buy them anything they want, etc... They are just becoming spoiled entitled brats. We had them make up lists of what they want for their birthday and Christmas and everything they want is super EXPENSIVE. But the thing is - they know they will get it. It makes me not even want to buy them anything. For example, BM bought SS13 a laptop for his birthday. Who spends $800-1000 on a birthday present?? We spent about $150 on him.