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Afraid to say it out loud... (kinda long, but good stuff)

Last-Wife's picture

but Lazy Boye 15 and I had a good time on Friday! Afraid if I talk about it, I'll curse myself. He'd been a poophead all week, so I was afraid to take him for his driver's permit test. When Friday morning came, he was a little grumpy. I gave him 3 options and he followed through. I simply turned on the car radio, and told him not to speak for 30 minutes, till we got to our destination, and for him to have a better attititude by then.

I am outta here, soon...

3bk1sd's picture

DH and I are going on a trip. we're taking off without any children (unfair I know, lol). We're taking 5 days to drive through the states and maybe get some good deals, have a stop at a casino and check out the white mountains while the trees are changing, I think that's probably specific enough without giving my whole itinerary, lol.
Anyone in NH? I just wondered if we're too late for changing leaves, last year we went 2 weeks earlier and we were too early.

DH I think you're using the wrong approach..

3bk1sd's picture

So SD12 decided that she wasn't coming this weekend. As I secretly did my "happy dance" I tried to be the supportive wife (a very hard thing to do).
I said why don't you just tell her that you're going to pick her up and she has no say. He said he didn't want to do that because she would be in a terrible mood all weekend.

waiting for the fall out

midgette71's picture

so i'm justing waiting for the fallout to happen w/ trepidation more for sd than having to deal w/ it myself since i have the option to hang up or walk away but sd doesn't. so bm calls sat morning on our weekend visitation and we just picked them up the day prior not twelve hours earlier and they live 7 minutes from us. i hand the phone to ss and go finish helping sd clean her room when i tell her her mom is on the phone.

Anxiety and dread start a week before she gets here.

quippers01's picture

I have 2 good weeks a month. Each inital week right after SD's EOWE visit. Then the weekend before her visits come and I start thinking "oh God, she's going to be here this time next week" and then it turns into "Damn it, she's going to be here in less than a week"..."a few days"..."AGHHH, TOMORROW!". It ruins the whole week. Every time. And I never feel any better until she's out the door Sunday. And even then, I'm only ok until the weekend when the cycle starts all over. I really feel so sorry for my H...MOST of the time.

Petty I know but....

oneoffour's picture

My YSS is 17 and completing his Eagle Scout requirement project.
Now I am the one for the past 6 yrs who has been sewing on badges and helping him get to places.
I am the one ironing and washing his uniform so he looks moderately presentable.
And 3 guesses who makes guest appearance today at his project to help out and brings donuts and drink?
Yup, the ice maiden. This is the same woman who tried to get to his family day at summer scout camp and thought it was funny that she got lost and never arrived. She never turns up for any of his scout stuff.

How important is it?

pastepmomof3's picture

DH has been struggling with XW#1 ever since they got divorced about putting SD into extra-curricular activities. The problem has never been that she was involved - the problem is that he was never consulted with on these decisions - he was just expected to comply. So we were jumping through hoops to get SD to this event and that event, no matter what our plans might have been. That stopped when SD decided a few years ago she was not coming over to Dad's house anymore. That lasted for a year until he charged BM with contempt a year after that decision was made.

Notice vs. Imagine

pastepmomof3's picture

This was a training I recently attended for work but it really is applicable to everything I'm involved with - work, home, ex's, SK's, etc. I've been checking out various blogs and forum topics and this training resonates in the back of my mind as I'm reading the "she's probably going to" or "he's thinking" or what have you.

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