I am to the point where I'm starting to think life would just be easier if I lived on my own.

This site is so rad. I know I have been a posting machine over the last couple of days and let me just say, having this place to just vent out everything that I'm feeling inside has been SO THERAPEUTIC.

When BM divorced DH in 2002, she really bent him over the barrel. She took 1/2 of the house, a vehicle, all the furniture, (including heirloom pieces he brought into the marriage) 1/4 of his pre-tax income, he carries SD on his insurance, and he pays for ALL transportation for visitation. (900 miles) Plus, she'd hit him up for money all the time. Not long after, he got promoted, and she tried to go after him for increased CS, but he moved and his income actually dropped, so she couldn't.

This moring we get a phone call from BM, Bf answers and BM says, "I know you have my brothers ipod nano, i'm taking you to court so you can pay for it." BF says, "WTF are you talking about, we don't have or need your shit take me to court you can't prove shit!" BM screaming at this time says, "I have a recipt stating I bought the nano!" BF than says, "Good for you, we don't even have a nano we have an ipod touch." BM screams, "Well be ready to go to court!" and than hangs up. (The nerve of that B*TCH!!!)

That's all changed with SO and SD.....
Sick, snotty child sleeps with clothes on.
Spits medicine on me.
Smiles up at me, naked on toilet this morning.
Calls me at work to tell me daddy gave her a bath as instructed.

(Should change my screen name to Not a Bm)

Francesca

I watched Teen Moms on MTV the other night. One of the characters (Macy) said this to her son's baby daddy.

"I would love to keep you away from him but I would never keep him away from you!" She was expressing her feelings of how the baby daddy was not someone she wanted to be around her son but that her son deserved to have a relationship with his daddy.

ok so bm had custody of skids 9 and 6. dh was never really around to help me after work with our two babies dd3 and ds6 months. i work full time and would get them from daycare and care for them, cook and clean until bed. i am the only one to wake up and feed the baby during the night. dh would go to a friends house everday after work and not come home until everyone was already in bed most nights. he gets off early on fridays and instead of helping me out and getting the kids he would just go hang out. also, he gets rainouts, never once did he go get our kids, he would let me do it all.

This weekend there is a great Fall Festival in my hometown and the weather is supposed to be BEAUTIFUL...unfortunately this is also SCIENCE PROJECT WEEKEND for SD11....uuuuugggghhhhh.

I have recently resolved to stop being pleasant to BM having realised that after SEVEN YEARS BM still hates me as much as ever and is never going to give me a break. At the moment BM is on a permanent holiday in Denial convincing herself that SD does not really have serious emotional problems, so she won't have to accept any responsibility. I have identified a theme, BM is also in Denial when it comes to accepting any responsibility for her marriage ending. Funnily enough it seems that everything is my fault.

Can someone please tell me if it's at all possible to have his ex-wife change her last name or even use her Maiden & then his last name???

The thing that I don't understand is that when you get divorced (even when there's kids involved), why would you want the last name of someone that you're not married to?

It's embarassing on the new wife ... I always have to explain myself and/or the situation.

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