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Another GAL Related Update

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Submitted by mmmpork on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 10:25pm

Met up with a couple today that have known BF and BM for several years. BF had given their names to the GAL as contacts for the investigation. As far as we knew, she hadn't contacted them, but we found out today that in fact she had, and had already spoken with one of them. The one she spoke with used to be BF's boss at a former job and had also spent time with BF, BM, and SD.

We're in the home stretch!

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Submitted by mmmpork on Sat, 02/12/2011 - 1:34pm

Got some good news a few months ago about BF's divorce!

We got discovery responses back from BM where we asked her explicitly what her proposal was for finding a job and supporting herself and daytime care for SD. She clearly stated she intends to relocate to live with her parents. She made some incoherent suggestions for if she didn't move, such as only working part time or going back to school, but nothing concrete.

Phase 2 of GAL

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Submitted by mmmpork on Sat, 02/12/2011 - 12:52pm

The interim report we got back in October was really disappointing. Even though there were all these flags all over the place of how nuts BM is, GAL did not recommend any changes. Going into the final report, the GAL was not very responsive or communicative to BF. She even said she didn't need a followup interview with either of them.

She did contact both lawyers and said she wanted to discuss what she was planning to recommend with both of them to see if they could come to some sort of agreement, to see if it would even be necessary for her to finish the report.

A Ray of Hope?

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Submitted by mmmpork on Mon, 10/04/2010 - 7:08pm

SO talked to his lawyer about the GAL report. His lawyer is pretty decent, knows the court system well and is a pretty neutral guy. He gives pretty good advice based on what is realistic to expect from the court and typically his reactions are in line with how a commissioner will see the situation. In addition, he knows the commissioners by name and knows their biases. He's not the greatest lawyer in the world but he's decent and gets the job done.

Nightmares and Stress

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Submitted by mmmpork on Fri, 10/01/2010 - 12:24pm

I slept horribly last night. I woke up in the middle of the night due to a horrible nightmare and my heart was pounding. I dreamt the court was taking SD3 away from BF and BF was crying. It scared me and I was really rattled this morning. BF isn't as shattered as he was after reading the report yesterday. He says it's not a loss for us and not a win for her. He's pretty confident that with the right statement to the court they will hit her pretty hard.

GAL Report Still Pending

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Submitted by mmmpork on Tue, 09/28/2010 - 2:35am

Last Tuesday we heard from the GAL that she needed more time to complete the report because she was still waiting to talk to someone or someones on the list of people she needs to talk to. There's no way in hell she can recommend BM to be primary but who knows what a 3rd party sees in these situations.

Hallo

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Submitted by mmmpork on Tue, 09/21/2010 - 12:24am

I'm new to this community Smile My bf is currently going through a very high conflict divorce. He has a 3 yo daughter that I totally love. I have no kids of my own. We just had a GAL evaluation and we're waiting for the results. For the temporary orders, he only had the financial part and the custody part is pending the GAL report. We're both totally nervous yet very hopeful.