I have recently resolved to stop being pleasant to BM having realised that after SEVEN YEARS BM still hates me as much as ever and is never going to give me a break. At the moment BM is on a permanent holiday in Denial convincing herself that SD does not really have serious emotional problems, so she won't have to accept any responsibility. I have identified a theme, BM is also in Denial when it comes to accepting any responsibility for her marriage ending. Funnily enough it seems that everything is my fault.

Can someone please tell me if it's at all possible to have his ex-wife change her last name or even use her Maiden & then his last name???

The thing that I don't understand is that when you get divorced (even when there's kids involved), why would you want the last name of someone that you're not married to?

It's embarassing on the new wife ... I always have to explain myself and/or the situation.

:?

This was going to be our first weekend EVER, ONLY taking my fiance's son. As most of you know, we have always also had SS3's older sister even though SD5 is not my fiance's daughter. We felt pretty good about this change (which occurred because SD's bio father changed his weekends and is now taking her on the weekends when we have SS...it's really how it SHOULD have always been). We are looking forward to having some one-on-one time with SS3 who is now becoming much more independent from his older sister (who very much enjoys bossing him around and telling him how to play).

I have seen a lot of posts about SM's who communicate quite a bit with BM. I see how some SM's talk/text BM about SK's info, activities, exchanges, school, etc etc..Why do you do this?

I love husband dearly. He's really fun to be around. But sometimes, maybe 2x a year a wonder how my life would have been had I not married him since he has a daughter. I have even thought of divorcing him because his daughter is sooo annoying. She don't wanna share anything but expects everyone to share everything with her. She will turn to Nickelodeon and hide the remote so thaat no one else can change the channel. She always expects dad to buy her gifts every other weekend (I put a stop to that). She interrupt when dad is talking to anyone else but her.

I slept horribly last night. I woke up in the middle of the night due to a horrible nightmare and my heart was pounding. I dreamt the court was taking SD3 away from BF and BF was crying. It scared me and I was really rattled this morning. BF isn't as shattered as he was after reading the report yesterday. He says it's not a loss for us and not a win for her. He's pretty confident that with the right statement to the court they will hit her pretty hard.

I have 50/50 custody with twin skids9, boy and girl. Boy plays football and girl is cheer leader for his team. I also have an SD13 but she isn't referred to in this blog. (FOR ONCE)

Today, as I am dropping skids off at school, SD9 says to me that she "hates school, it is worthless and stupid." She also says, "I am tired because I never get to rest because of cheer leading." She is crying and being almost rude to me because I am making her go to school.

Our stepdaughter broke our hearts and maybe the marriage.

This morning I have been reflecting on our 16+ year adventure in dealing with the SpermIdiot and the SpermClan.

My wife gave me a desk top photo album/stand for our 16th anniversary. Today I flipped the pictures and there is a picture of my kid (SS-18) from 12-12-94. What a great hid he is was and is. Except for the teen thing that he may yet live through he is a truly outstanding young man. My wife and I are proud to be his mom and dad.

As for the SpermClan.......

I can sum the entire 16+ years up in one sentence. Be reasonable, work with us, or suffer!

So; before SD13 moved in with us FT - we gave her mom at least $200.00 a month plus gave her whatever else she needed (school clothes, sports) plus we had her 50/50 - we also have 3 other kids as well. Anyway; she has sinced moved in with us and BM had handed SD a $20.00 hear - $20.00 there; for stuff like school dances; spirit wear for school.