To start this off I was married once before to a man that was abusing to me and my 2 kids so I ended my marriage with him. 5 years later I found a man that I gave all my love to, But he has two girls the oldest one I have no problem with what so ever, she is loving and caring, but she is intimidated by her younger sister. I have dated this man for 4 years and he really didn't help me out with them he was only a weekend dad to them and every other week to his girls in the summer but he rather be there best friend then being a dad that punish them.