I am new here and it is comforting to know that so many others have the same problems that I do! My husband and I have been married for 4 years but have been together for 7 years. I have one son who is 13 and he has 2 girls and 1 boy, ages 15,18, and 21. My SS who is 18 now used to live with us and so did my SD who is 21 and has a 3 year old. The problems that they caused are the same as most of you on here have experienced. The rudeness, lies to other family members about me and my son, the issues with a crazy BM are all things that I went through.