I'm not sure what to do anymore. My husband and I have been struggling for some time now with his BM. In my personal opinion, she's unfit to be a mother. This has been my opinion from the time my SD was born to this very day at the age of 12. Recently, my SD's disregard for other people's property and emotions has gotten out of control. We don't tolerate it in our house. But her mother allows it in hers. Her mother doesn't care what she does so long as she (the mother) doesn't have to be bothered to step away from the online computer games long enough to have to care for her children.