“You WILL say thank you to MY WIFE!”
Due to distance learning, there are times when supplies need to be picked up at the school for projects and assignments. My SO's work schedule makes it impossible for him to do any of that, so it's always me. Yesterday, I had to go to the school for SD10. I got home and she grabbed it, laid everything out on the kitchen table, and went on her merry way. Each time that I have picked anything up for my own kids, I have always been thanked for it. SD though? Of course not. Not even once. I mentioned it to my SO and he was instantly annoyed. I love how he has slowly realized who SD is over the last few months. He still has his moments where he is stupidly optimistic and overly hopeful, but he is way more aware of how much of a mini BM his daughter is. She has no empathy or compassion, she's super fake 24/7, she's unattached and uncaring, she's dishonest and rebellious, and I could keep going. Last night, he said, "You WILL say thank you to MY WIFE!" I don't like when people are forced to show thanks or apologize because it's not genuine, so what's the point? He told me that he knows that she isn't thankful for anything, but she still has to thank me when I do stuff for her. This is a huge turn of events. With SD's BM living in another state, all of the pressure to be "mom" has been on me since SD was four years old. From day one, I've been treated like I was supposed to fill the shoes and like I'm obligated to do everything that the BM should be doing. The expectations have been unfairly high from SD, my SO, and literally everyone else, including my own parents. It's been overwhelming. I'm happy that my SO is finally starting to be visibly bothered by his daughter's messed up personality and behavior.