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Submitted by stepmom31 on Tue, 08/10/2010 - 2:51pm

Do any of you have this problem?:
Grandparents treating grandchildren very differently... a) Doting over new baby (yours and DH/DW) and b)slighting the children of DH and BM (i.e. your stepkids)

We actually live with DH's parents right now. So the stepkids come every weekend and were here for a few days extra this summer. Their preference is blatant. Grandparents exude LOVE for baby, and the stepkids are tolerated. Grandma tries to pretend there's love, but the difference in love for stepkids and love for baby is so prominent. Grandpa barely even tries to pretend.

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Fri, 08/06/2010 - 9:59am

2 days after being here (after not wanting to come for summer but having to be here because their mom went to visit her boyfriend in a different state), they hit DH up for STUFF.

They want new Nikes for back-to-school.

Turns out we're getting the kids for a week this summer after all! Guess why?

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Fri, 07/30/2010 - 7:14am

Let me recall:

1. DH is supposed to have 4 weeks with the kids during summer.

2. BM said the kids don't want to spend any weeks with us this summer, we will continue to get them EVERY weekend and that is more than enough.

3. The kids told DH for themselves they don't want to spend any weeks here especially because they have no friends or cousins nearby and they don't really want to spend time with me when DH is at work.

Major Changes to CS/Alimony Law in FL in 2010

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Wed, 07/28/2010 - 8:43am

Just a heads up for anyone in FL.

Summary of Changes:

1. Requires child support awards to end upon the child reaching the age of majority and, where appropriate, to account for revised child support guidelines based on remaining child support owed.

2. Where the parents of a child have a high income, a different standard is applied in order to determine the amount of child support owed.

DH saw with his own eyes!

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Tue, 07/27/2010 - 9:19am

It turns out that the long chat DH ended up having with the kids this weekend was because SS and I were in the kitchen and I told him something and when I turned my back he stuck his tongue out at what I said (not directly at me, but in response to what I had said) and DH saw him do it (through a glass door from the patio)!!

DH had a long chat with the kids

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Mon, 07/26/2010 - 7:54am

It's funny. Sometime back BM blasted DH about planning to leave the kids home alone, and then he did it anyway. But she was cool about it in the end. Possibly even happy, because here's what, now that it's summer, they're home alone almost every day now, granted only for the few hours that she works. The sad thing though, she lied to DH and said they stay by their aunt. And well, she has the kids lying to DH too. This weekend he finally got the truth out.

Now she is saying that the KIDS say they don't want to come by their dad for summer visitation

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Wed, 06/30/2010 - 12:26pm

BM complained about how having the kids at home for the summer is extra expense for her because she has to provide meals when they are not in school and additional entertainment and activities.

DH stepped up and reminded her that he will have them for his summer visitation (4 weeks) and will gladly have them for more time, to defray expenses and give her time for herself.

And she replies to say that the kids said they don't want to visit with him for the summer.

BM wants to talk to DH about his WIFE and the kids, should I insist on being part of the conversation???

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Submitted by stepmom31 on Fri, 06/25/2010 - 9:24am

After one weekend of putting "the Rules" the kids agreed to up on the fridge, and DH attempting to follow through with ONE consequence for SD not following the rules (it failed, because he told her no TV on Sat night and she ended up watching TV and getting away with it anyway), BM told DH this morning that she wants to have a chat with him about HIS WIFE and the kids.

Hmmm... I wonder what this can be about....

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