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Struggling with wanting to slap the skids silly -Vent

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So my SS 16 turned 16 on Saturday. He was told in the fall (well for years, really) he must have a 70+ in each class in order to join the ski club, and he failed with that showing us a 57 in history at mid term. I was so proud of my husband for sticking to his guns and not letting SS 16 go to ski club. He warned him he had to get his marks up with his 16th birthday approaching if he wanted any support regarding his license and a future car. So what did he do? He did even worse! Finished the course with a 56.

My sister has chosen the Darkside

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Despite all my best efforts, my sister has fallen in love with a man who has a daughter the same age as hers (5) and a BM who shows all the signs of being from hell. The BM has her hands in his wallet, has him on speed dial, interferes with their time together at every opportunity. The new future step daughter is already telling stories to pit them against one another.

My own special Disney Dad

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I always knew that my husband struggled with "raising" his children, which is ironic because he is usually excellent with dishing out discipline. What I have discovered, though, is that he's fine with instant discipline for actions but he will not follow through when discipline takes work. He doesn't want to do the hard work.
His BPD diagnosed daughter, who is about to turn 18 and has been living with her boyfriend for the last year, allowed me to see the first cracks in his parenting abilities, and now his son who is almost 16 has revealed the remaining cracks.

Almost not pissed. But still, some pissy-ness. Sigh.

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I've been angry for a week. Since my DH told me that SD 17 was moving out of her mom's now too.

I've been pissed that (in my opinion - though based on history) her mom is pushing her to go since she wasn't able to get CS from us.

I'm pissed because, what the hell was the point of SD leaving here and causing US pain only to turn around and leave her mom's a few months later?

Another letting go moment - surprisingly cathartic

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My DH told me yesterday that estranged sd17 has been looking at apartments. He had coffee with her yesterday, and she invited him to look at the one she wanted with her. She's still in grade 12, mind you. But 7 months full time with her BM is apparently enough for her.

First, I covered my mouth and laughed. "Haha sucker!" was what I was thinking in the moment. I apologized and told him to ignore me, I was being mean to laugh like that. (Fortunately, he didn't seem to think it was mean.)

Oops. Double standard, dear husband!

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My poor husband had surgery just over a month ago and has been cooped up in our house ever since. It hasn't been fun for him, especially as he is limited in mobility for the time being. I've noticed that he's been a bit touchy about several things in the last few weeks - which I think is completely understandable. It's a bit of a pain, but understandable.

Why I love my husband

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Yesterday, as we were running errands, he asks me out of the blue "So how long are we going to let the kids live with us?"

After a dinner out with friends who have their 22 yr old still at home, and his sister who has her 25 yr old plus their 22 yr old son AND his girlfriend living with them, he was wondering when to tell our kids to take a hike. All those kids mentioned are done school and hanging around. They have enabling parents (whom we love!) but they are enablers nonetheless.

Unexpected perks

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Seven months ago my SD 17 left our home and hasn't been back. We haven't spoken since, though she did attend three family dinners at Christmas so there was opportunity if desired. I did not desire this.

She is a passive aggressive borderline personality disordered young woman. Every word that leaves her mouth is suspect. But, I didn't throw her out, I didn't even demand that my husband throw her out. I just disengaged, and he told her to cut the crap out. So she left.

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