My dh is ill at the moment. He is crippled with arthritis and sciatica, can't walk or stand and is dependent on me to get his food/drinks as he cannot feed himself at the moment. He is diabetic and needs regular food and medication, and as his powerful pain relief makes him dopey I'm having to monitor him and make sure he's taking his medicine at the right times. He also had a heart scare at the weekend and got taken to hospital with chest pains and breathing problems which was really scary even though they couldn't find anything obvious.

My husband was given custody of his 3 boys over 6 years ago, after a long, difficult court case. The court welfare reporter found that the bm was emotionally unstable and unfit to have full time custody of the kids. We have documented evidence that she emotionally abused the kids from court reports, reports from child mental health professionals and statements from school staff who expressed concern about the boys' behaviour, attainments and emotional state. BM has a history of mental illness and alcohol abuse.

Another poster put something up a couple of days ago trying to list positive things about their skid, and it made me think. So many of us are dealing with very stressful step situations with shitty skid behaviour and horrible bms and it's easy to lose sight of the good qualities in our skids. I should imagine there are many step parents who cannot say anything positive at all about their skids, specially when their shitty behaviour is allowed and enabled by the bio parents, but I wonder how many of us can see good in our skids even if they do irritate us quite a lot.

I'm sooooo frustrated right now and don't know what to do next. I'm sick of living in a messy, dirty shit hole because dh allows his kids to behave like slobs and does nothing about it. I've posted about this before but nothing has changed and I'm still putting up with the same old crap.