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How to make SD10 understand....

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For months I have been finding little notes from SD to herself, complaining about how much she hates it here and can't stand it and want to live with her mother and her mother is so much better than her dad. Each one usually says I can't live with my Dad anymore I have to live with my mom cause I haven't lived with her in so long. SD10 also had ODD (actually I think she's bi polar like BM) and in one note it says I will not stop my anger problem til I live with my mom. Well, that's funny cause you talk to you mother like a piece of shit too!

mixed feelings.......

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I have 2 BDs. My skids live with me. Dh has been suggesting that we try to have a baby of our own, being we don't have any together. My BDs are twins and for 7 years have been my world, center of attention and my life. I feel very pulled on whether or not to have another child. On one hand I would love to have another baby and share that with DH and on the other I feel like in some way I would be betraying my BDs. I have no idea why I feel like this and just want to know if this is normal? I don't want them to feel like I don't want them or love them less..

Does this happen to anyone or has happened?

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My skids BM does not pay child support. Everytime my DH files, she throws a fit like a 2 year old and gets the kids involved and makes them turn on him. So DH drops the support. For the past 2 years I have told him to take her since she is useless, a liar and does not lift a finger to do anything for these kids. DH always just says i'm tired of fighting and it's not worth it. How is it not worth it? I've got to give DH EW credit she took him for support and never backed down once! So why doesn't he have the balls to stand up to his EG and take her? So confusing...

update on morning mayem......

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So i told my ss13 and sd10 that they will be walking the 2 blocks to school. when my dh came home i informed him of what they did, and how they were acting and that i was no longer driving them to school until they learn how to treat me, he just agreed and said ok they do need to learn. glad i got his support on that one. Well my dh had off of work yesterday, and what does he do. he drives them to school! i was in the laundry room and my dh husband walked in and said i will be right back, i asked where he was going so early in the morning and he said i'm taking the kids to school.

morning mayhem....

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Ok, so my ss13 and my sd10 decided that this morning was going to be the morning to gang up on my. Usually when they act up in the morning i ignore it cause the fights with them usually arent worth the time. So they both decided they were going to talk to me like crap, bang my dh and i things around, punch the walls and act like 2 year olds. I told them that i am done i do everything for everyone in the house and nobody does anything for me, that life isn't a fairytale filled with shopping and getting to do whatever u want all day everyday and welcome to the real world.

any advice

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Just wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to have skids give more respect?
My SS13 has some respect for me at times more than others, which i am happy with. My SD10 on the other hand has zero respect for me. Is there a way to make her understand I am an important person in her life too and that I am not just someone who plays taxi and chef?

love when people try

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I hate when I try to explain to someone my situation and they say: "well you married him you knew what you were getting yourself into!" The F&*% I did! I had no idea what this marriage would bring. I was fine that my H has kids and that I would be a SM. I expect the i'm not listening to you b/c your not my mom bullshit, and expect to not be treated a little bit different being a SM.

New to me...

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I am a BM to twin girls and I am also a SM. I love my H to death but thanks to his lovely children i am on the verge of getting divorced. I have known my H for 6 years and been married almost 3. One would think since i have been around so long that there would be no major problems!? Well, at least thats what I tell myself or maybe it's more of a hope.