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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 01/08/2018 - 9:01am

When DH first got divorced he was paying CS via garnishment from his pay check.

Two summers ago, the contract job that he held for 5 years ended. We contacted the CS office and decided that direct withdrawal from our bank account would be best because DH wasn't sure where and when he was going to land.

Since then he has held 4 jobs and was laid off for almost 4 months over the summer. He was never in jeopardy of going into arrears because CS was coming directly from our bank account.

And it begins...

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 12/18/2017 - 10:43am

The holiday madness.

For Thanksgiving, BM was ever so kind and said that DH could have the children this year. BUT...less than a week before the holiday she changed her mind. You know, after I already purchased a large ass turkey.

For Christmas, the kids wake up at BM's house. We decided to have our Christmas on Christmas Eve and DH invited his parents (who have never come to our house for Christmas and only once for Thanksgiving)

USED to be a Disney Dad, LOLOLOLOL.

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Submitted by Ninji on Thu, 12/14/2017 - 12:25pm

When I got home from work yesterday, DH was telling me about his friend that is recently separated. DH went over his house after work yesterday. He said that all four kids (ages 3-12) had their faces in screens. They had every expensive game system and the house was a wreck.

He said he had a conversation with the guy about actually parenting his kids and not turning into a Disney dad. He told the guy that he used to be a Disney Dad when he first got divorced and it took him awhile to get out of it.

And this is why I will always hate BM

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 12/11/2017 - 1:21pm

This was BM's weekend to have SS.

When he came home from her house, he had this conversation with DH...

SS - I'm sooo glad to be home

DH - Why's that?

SS - Because there is no food at my mom's house. I'm starving. I feel sorry for SD having to live there with no food.

Food has been an ongoing issue with BM. Skids have resorted to eating frozen French fries and popcorn for dinner. Whenever DH complains to BM about it, she insists there is plenty of food in the freezer. Yeah, because an 11 yr old knows all about defrosting and cooking frozen food.

And the therapist said...

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 11/28/2017 - 7:46am

https://www.steptalk.org/node/242165

Last Wednesday was SS's therapy appointment. I hesitate to call it his first because she mostly asked me questions about his history. I think this week's appointment will be more her and him. I think.

Anyway, after asking questions about when and where he is having his tantrums and asking about his grades, she told me that she is not prescribing him any medication at this point.

Out of anwers. What should we do with SS.

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 09/05/2017 - 10:16am

https://www.steptalk.org/node/237739

I blogged a few times last year about my SS threating to kill people at his school. The link above is the only one I could still find.

I had an hour and a half conference with two of SS's teachers, the guidance counselor, two behavior specialist and some other woman on Friday. They want me to take SS and get him "diagnosed"

School sent mail to our house addressed to BM

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 09/05/2017 - 9:34am

DH, of course, says no big deal.

Any yes, in the large scheme of our lives it not a big deal, but it really annoys me.

Some ding bat at the school thinks all mail must be sent to GUBM. Even though DH has full custody. Even though the address for BM (that the school has) literally goes to a different city. Even though BM has not once been involved with this school. She couldn't tell you were it was if her life depended on it. But mail from the school that should be addressed to SS's father gets addressed to BM.

BM tried to hug DH

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 08/28/2017 - 8:36am

This happened two weeks ago but DH just told me over the weekend.

Apparently, when BM came to drop off SS, she brought her new boyfriend with her.

BM and new boyfriend (NB) followed SS to our front door and SS closed the door on them. Biggrin Good boy. He has been told not to let anyone in our house, even BM.

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