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Time for Vacation

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DH and I are going on vacation this week. It's a much needed break from a crazy year. A part of me feels like a bad person because we won't see SD for 2 weeks. But the other part feels awesome that I won't have to deal with BM for the next two weeks.

Very Suspicious

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I honestly have no clue what BM is up to. The last three weeks or so she has been overly nice. DH and I both find it odd-myself more than him I think. She'll randomly text both of us (multiple convo) to see how we are and pics of SD, ask us about our family, has even brought up when we were going to start trying. WEIRD and equal red flag to me. DH just ignores her but it makes me a little uneasy. I mean she has been the b*tch from hell for two years and has now had a sudden change of heart--not likely or maybe I've become cynical. Anyway, last night was like every other night.

SD needs....

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So we had a fairly good weekend with SD. Well early yesterday morning, BM text me telling me SD needed winter clothes and shoes. Now when DH and I had her birthday party last week, I was nice and gave BM a few shirts, a few pairs of pants, and a set of pjs that SD received at her party. I kept the rest for when we have her (BM never sends clothes that match or are too small). Now I know for fact she had just recently cashed about 2 months worth of child support checks so the fact she was pretty much asking me to buy her clothes for SD kind of seemed odd.

BM assumes she makes all decisions

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I haven't posted in a few months. Been super busy moving and getting settled in. DH and I have kept contact with BM on a as needed basis. Anyway lets get to my small rant: we kept my SD all I last week for our summer visitation. We scheduled our week the week before SD's birthday so that we could have a birthday party for our family and friends. SD seemed to have a good week here. We bought her a toddler bed (she will be 2 this weekend) which she loved. I also worked on potty training. Since DH had to work most of the week I was left taking care of her.

Super Annoyed

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I will never understand some women and honestly, I probably don't want to. I have had an ongoing discussion with DH about his child support and BM. The BM has failed to cash three months worth of child support payments. It's ridiculous. I've asked DH to ask her about it but he doesn't want to argue with her. Well it doesn't have to be an argument. If she wants to be stupid and not take the child support that's her problem. Since we pay thru the court system, they keep a record of the payment and the check numbers.

Small Rant

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My husband and his baby mama went to court back in April. Our attorney sent her and her attorney a calender showing what holiday days my husband would get SD. Now for some reason she has a really hard time understanding. I try not to get annoyed because I know it takes time to get use to a visitation schedule and the wording can be confusing. Since I work for an attorney, it was easier for me to explain it to my husband. But I've had to explain it to her as well. I've given her several calenders and I think she either just puts them in the trash or stuffs them in a drawer.

Holidays

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DH and I are getting married in 2 weeks. And with Thanksgiving being right in the middle of that and then Christmas, I have been trying to plan out the holidays with our schedules. Having to go between 2 families plus having SD in the mix has proven to be a pain in my side. Luckily my side of the family easily compromises. Since we only have SD the 22-24 this year for Christmas, my family has agreed to have a small Christmas dinner the 22nd to open gifts with SD . I attempted to set up a time on the 24th for DH's family to have Christmas with SD.

BM being petty AGAIN

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So we have SD for Halloween this year. Yay. BM told DH that she had already bought a costume so we didn't need to bother getting one. I was 100% ok with that. Well DH picks SD up yesterday and when I got home guess what.....no costume. I asked him where it was and he informed me that when BM had said we didn't need to worry about getting one she meant she didn't want us to take her trick-or-treating and BM would just take her later. BM felt it was something that u do with family--translation--with her and her family because DH is only a "part-time" dad (those were her words).

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