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Men and selective hearing

newtothis03's picture

This entry is aimed more toward men than anything else.
So the last couple weeks, my household has battled the stomach virus, flu, and sinuses. While we were at the store buying groceries, DH and I went down the cleaning supply aisle. I went ahead and bought extra bleach to do some cleaning. DH grabbed Lysol and I took it right back out of the cart. I have explained to him before that I have a bad allergy to Lysol and Disinfected Spray. I use diluted bleach to clean with. Always have. I have told him this several times. My entire body breaks out in hives. Its horrible. So this morning I was getting ready for work and drinking my coffee. About 30 mins later I noticed bumps on my arm. I knew right away. I found DH watching TV in the bedroom and confronted him and he admitted to spraying down the living room, SD's bedroom, and the bathroom. DH thought I was just "playing" about being allergic to the stuff. I then had to show him my arms and legs cause the hives had done spread. So now I have to be out money to go to the doctor. Men just aggravate me to no end sometimes.

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DeeDeeTX's picture

This doesn't sound so much like a case of selective hearing, but more like a case of your husband believing you were exaggerating/lying. So he heard and understood you, just didn't believe you.

Like my husband always said he didn't like X vegetable. I finally slipped it in to a casserole and he ate the whole thing and liked it. So it's not that I had selective hearing, I just thought he was being a big baby.... Smile

newtothis03's picture

Yea you're right. he thought I was over exaggerating rather than just not hearing me. It just aggravates me. It's the only thing I've told him I can't have in the house and its been that way for 2 years now.

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

Ugh, I hear you. I've been having an ongoing conversation with SO lately about his selective hearing when we talk to one another. It's getting SOOOOO annoying!

Like, I told him a few weeks ago about how I'm going to temporarily put off grad school due to health issues, and, how I am OK with it because my health is important. Then, I told him how it doesn't bum me out too badly because my supervisor at work delayed grad school for a year and a half and that my counselor didn't start until she was in her 30s. Somehow, the fact that I'm delaying going because of health reasons got lost because he started telling me how I shouldn't base my decisions off of what other people do or say. I got frustrated and told him that my health is the reason I'm delaying, but, that the fact that other people I know and look up to have delayed makes me feel less pathetic about it. His response? "Oh". It's like he doesn't listen to half of what I'm saying sometimes.

attempting_to_maintain_composure's picture

Yea, SO doesn't even realize he's doing it half the time. He thinks when he replies to things that are just remotely associated that it's progressing the conversation, and I'm sitting there like "Uhm, that wasn't what I was talking about".

And, yea, I'm definitely feeling far more secure in my decision to put off grad school until next year. I need to have the time to de-stress and calm myself and get my health issues back into check. But, at least I know I have a job waiting for me after I receive my diploma in May Biggrin