DH & I have decided that I will head back north to where my family and kids are. Living the southern California way was really nice, different & I learned a new love: surfing. My SSx3 are back in NC with their ostrich head burying in the sand mother and I am on my way home. I've spent the last 8 weeks in turmoil as I've discovered not such nice things about DH; I have a new found respect for my DS25's SM, and I've met some of the most insightful, caring people who are humorous, stressed & in my mind & heart? You've become people who I shared my world with.