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OT-Scary Mommy Confessions website...interesting, of course, BMs only

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So, with all the hell we get here from BMs about how we complain about skids, blah, blah, blah...the fact is that there is a website for Scary Mommies...yep...you heard it. I bought the book as it stated it was funny...wow! oh wow! You will hear so many of the things we say here, but of course, we are HORRIBLE SMOMS for doing so and should divorce our DHs for doing so...here are some interesting things I read...

OT-great book to read for those whose DH takes the skid's side a bit too much!

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Someone here posted that her counselor told her that what was happening between her SD and DH was now called emotional incest. With that, I thought I'd find a book to read. Oh my, what an eye opener! If there was one book I wish I would have read years ago, it was probably this. It explains so clearly what my DH and his daughter had, thankfully because of the chaos has now been broken, but I am making him read it too! I have to say I even see my sister in this book and feel so sorry for her.

OT-anyone deal with a stepfather sexually abusing an sd?

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If so, did you see any signs? Just wondering. I have always wondered because of some issues at the very beginning and just a GUT feeling I had, but stupid DH confronted his crazy ex instead of calling CPS...and of course, then I was told "I was a witch and kid was afraid of ME", which made our life miserable...so from there on I disengaged completely. But honestly, I just have this gut feeling that someday that kid will speak out and say something about it. I have a feeling she will not until she is out of her mother's home.

Anyway, did you see any signs? What were they?

BM is pregnant AGAIN? yet she says that CS is not enough for skid...gotta love it

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So, nice, BM will have a baby younger that skid's 2 kids...I don't get how she can claim that CS is not enough, how idiot SD can tell her dad he is a loser because he wouldn't give her extra and that BM had TWO OTHER KIDS to take care of, yet she works at a freaking mall store (no, not a manager or anything) and she is pregnant yet again...just gotta love that witch! This freaking CS better end soon and she better not give us any crap about it.

OT-book recommendations for step-family life...

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I just read this book and I wish I would have read it much sooner. I have read Stepmonster, Ex-Wives Ex-Lives and this...and I have to tell you that each talks to me. However, this book I believe gives you something you can actually do to make things better...and it's NOT what you think. It's not to be super nice and put the kids first, etc...I believe it gives a great balance to get you to a comfortable if not happy position. I highly recommend it.

after more than almost two years, skid rears it's head...sigh...I need patience to deal

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So, it's been almost two years since loser texted her dad and told him he was a loser, a piece of sh#$%#$5, a f@#$#4ing ahole, blah, blah, blah...He has had ZERO contact with loser since then.

Well, my DH was laid off end of last year, so when he got his new job, he "only" gave his brother his work number. His brother was NOT to share with ANYONE, including DH's parents, etc. because of the constant abuse, harassment and games...what happens?

OT-finding simplicity and calm - we ALL need that here :-)

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Over the last 2 years it seems I have been sick off and on and the only difference has really been the amount of stress I have. A few months ago I decided that I could no longer continue with this stress and began doing something about it. So I thought I'd share some things here that have helped me in the hopes that others here can also simplify their lives and relieve some of the stress.

OT-arrears AMOUNT vs. actual CS payment...how people use numbers to make themselves look good

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Just something I noticed recently. Most people who's ex's have been screwed by the system into paying outrageous amounts of child support NEVER tell you how much child support is ordered for per month...nope...they tell you "he is in ARREARS to the TUNE OF 20K". Of course, with that, most people not involved in the CS mess might think "oh my, the guy as NEVER paid a dime".

OT-UTI...or Kidney infection...need help

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For a couple of weeks now it seems I had a UTI. I never get this, so I don't even know much about it. It seemed to be going away and I had my period too, so I couldn't really go to the doctor for the first week. The last few days it seems to be getting better and then gets worse again. I don't have fever, but I am having a very, very light pain in my lower back...I have no car to go to a dr, so I called today and I can go tomorrow. Is this something that can wait?

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