I met my wife when we were in our late 30's,ten years ago now,she had two boys and at that time they were eight and eleven years of age,we married in 2015 and now have lived together for eight years,with ups and downs.however now they are both grown men,almost twenty two and eighteen years old,I feel the eighteen year old should be a lot more proactive in getting both gainful employment and even his own place.I feel like something we couldn't wait to do when we were his age are not even on the agenda here,he begrudgingly and against his will obtained a part time (20 hour p.w.) weekend job,w