Ok so I am new here.. I am bm of one 8 yr old from previous relationship. SM to two children ages 12 and 13, and one more on the way. Take note my SO and his ex wife have been divorced for about 10 yrs. We dated 2 yrs and then moved in together. After a year of living together we have a baby on the way. These kids have had plenty of time to adjust. My son is not perfect but I also know that spoiling him beyond repair will not help him at any point in life. These stepkids are a night mare and I so wish I could say other wise. I love them!!