The BM and my husband have been seperated for over 10yrs but the BM has a HUGE control issue. She hates to see her DH happy, and even went so far as contacting my parents (talking crap about him) in hopes to stop our wedding. After 4 yrs together, her spitefulness and manipulation doesnt work. She is now at the point where she cant blame him and be affective so now she has turned the blame on me. Recently, she told my husband, he will no longer see the kids because I'AM such a hateful spiteful b*tch. Its all very confusing to me because just over a month ago, things were fine.