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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Sun, 02/11/2018 - 11:37am

I've written before about how SO and the ex have some joint bills. Part of the divorce degree states how much each of them is responsible for. SO has the money put back to pay his part in full once this whole thing is done. What upsets us is knowing that BM will not pay her part which means these bills will continue to hurt my partner. As it is renting for him is difficult with any larger company because one of the debts is connected to rent so any time they do the background check they ding him on that. They don't care about the other's, just the rent.

Assumptions aren't lies but still

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Mon, 02/05/2018 - 7:07pm

How do you handle your partner assuming things and being wrong?

We've had twice now where he was wrong and we had minorish backlash. He's not flat out lying to me but he thinks he knows / remembers something and ends up being wrong. I had a feeling he was wrong both times and tried pressing him to find out for a fact but he didn't and I just left it alone.

OTish I think I need to have a baby.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Wed, 01/24/2018 - 4:24am

I've talked before about how quickly my family welcomed my partner and his kids. The kids seem to love my mom and the youngest is amazing with my nephew who is constantly asking my sister of he can "Go see (boys name." My nephews only 3 and possibly autistic so this is huge and my partners son was so aggressive to see how absolutely loving he was with my nephew was amazing.

OT - Support isn’t always positive.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Sun, 01/21/2018 - 9:56am

I know I’m not the only one who finds this annoying. How many people come here wanting “support” when really it’s “make me feel better.” I know there is a very good chance I’ve been guilty of this but I do find there are some repeat offenders. Maybe not so much this site but I’m also a part of a lot of Facebook based support groups for all sorts of topics.

BM is complaing about my cats again.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Thu, 01/11/2018 - 10:58pm

So apparently the little one got a scratch the last time he was here. Or not who knows but BM is trying to raise hell claiming one of my cats did it.

Did they, maybe, but I'm not gonna blame them.

I have two cats. Both were adopted with speical needs. They've lived with me for 3 years. When the kids started coming over we tried to introduce well but the little one was rambunctious as a 4 year old could be. The cats are allowed in our room all the time and the kids are not to go in there without premission.

Can they call you mom?

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Sat, 01/06/2018 - 4:00pm

So I don’t know if anyone else uses the whisper app but I LOVE it. Wonderful for those horrible little thoughts that you need to get out without any repercussions. You know the “My boss is the biggest *SS in the world and wouldn’t know depression from schizophrenia if it hit him.” (I work in mental health)

Anyways I recently saw one that stated something along the lines of “I don’t want my step child to call me mom. I’m not their mother.”

Why 2 steps forward 1 back?

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Sat, 12/30/2017 - 10:52pm

The kids have been with us a few days now for the hoilday.

Until today things have been going great.

Then out of no where the little one has another "accident".

This is getting rediculaus. Excuse is "I was busy." Well guess were back to being on the toilet every hour.

What bothers me is even after SO figure out he did it and tells the kid to clean up the boy goes back to playing. He went to get clean clothes... then doesn't come out of his room.

Coming in late.

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Submitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Tue, 12/26/2017 - 3:13pm

I love SO's kids. One of the hardest things is that they were already old enough when I met them that they are working on independence. SO's daughter really warmed up to be this past summer. She is now ok cuddling with me, getting hugs and kisses good night, ect. SO's youngest is a preschooler who seemed to love me from moment on. So now both of them are comfortable with me being around but they don't need me.

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