I want to share something positive. One of the best things about being a bonus mom (not married yet) is that the kids are picking up some of my interest.

I’ve had people say they look like me which is nice but means very little. What really makes me happy is when they do something that I know came from me. Like the oldest loves some of the same books I loved. I’m the one who introduced her to them and now she has posters and toys and wants new bedding.

Well BM FINALLY made contact. She hasn’t seen or spoken to the kids in three weeks. I’ve sent her a few messages with pictures of the kids at their request but she doesn’t respond. I’ll be honest I was a little worried something might have happened. Anyways she finally messaged us.

So it’s summer finally. Kids got out Thursday last week and as normal BM started messaging about SO getting them early. He was supposed to pick up Friday but agreed to get them from school. As usual BM is MIA already. BM isn’t responding to messages and forget about her calling the kids. She hasn’t even set dates for her mid break visit. It’s frustrating because the youngest is already asking when they go back and we have no answer for him. I’m expecting us to have them most of the summer which isn’t an issue except again we don’t know what to tell the little one when he asks about mom.

I HATE that we’re at this point and I don’t do this sort of thing lightly but something’s got to give. I messaged the VSO trying to help us with SO’s VA claim. What he’s told me is that she was trying to get the records so we can fix the DD214. Without it being fixed we’re stuck. Well she didn’t message me back so Friday I sat down with SO.