We recently had something happen that's been bothering me. I've tired to just figure this out on my own because I can guess some of the feedback I'll get but I need help.

SO and I do everything we can to minimize contact with BM to start with. Rarely something will happen though and we end up together.

Anyone have an issue if I start a "why he's amazing" post for us to brag a little bit about our partners.
I mean there's got to be some reason we stay and put up with BM drama and possible devil Skids.

Mine is amazing because he's always got my back.
For example in all the craziness of this morning I walked off and left my wallet so no money for lunch.

SO not only brought it to me but stopped on the way to pick up food for me.

So yeah he's amazing.

Well after checking on more time SO now has an app that will instantly record any phone calls. He can also alter it to exclude people or limit to certain people.

SO next time BM calls with a verbal threat that she refuses to send through the app or text "because then you'll still have your written proof," it won't matter.

Again in our state only one party needs to know the recording is happening.

We tested it out. I called him. I didn't hear anything that would give away I was being recorded and it was clear when we listened to it.

I hate my partner's ex. I know all of us here can say that and I could go on and on about all the typical reasons why but here's the main one.

My partner doesn't know how to be selfish.

Funny right? Selfishness is a bad thing right? Maybe selfish isn't the right word. Maybe I should say he doesn't know how to put himself first. EVER.

I mean he's a parent so I guess many would say he shouldn't. Of course the kids needs come first. He's my boyfriend so of course he puts me first, right?