SS10 returns back to BM's in 4 days. While I am ready for him to go home, his tune has changed now that he realizes he is going back. He has been having a lot of gastrointestinal issues in these past few days. When we ask him about it, he says it's nerves, but doesn't elaborate. This has happened before on previous visits when he knows he has to return to BMs. I wonder if he is anxious about the interrogation I am sure he will receive, but he refuses to open up about it so we don't push. 

DH and I are in the process of drafting a will which will establish division of assets and custody of DD in the event of our deaths. We made it clear to our attorney that we do not want to leave anything to SS10 in the event of our joint passing. If we decide to leave SS something, if he doesn't PAS out and maintains a decent relationship with us, it will be handled informally through assets left to my FIL and will only gifted once SS reaches adulthood. My FIL agreed to handle any transaction gifted to SS if that is our wishes.

DH, DD, and I are at my FIL's wedding today, so my parents drove out-of-state to pick SS10 up for his last two week visit of summer. My parents said it worked out well for them because they have long time friends in the same city that they have been wanting to visit. 

SS10 had his throat procedure last week. Today, we receive a reimbursement form from BM, requesting reimbursement of the $250 deposit she put down toward his procedure. DH had his tonsils out last month and he had to put $300 down toward the surgery - that deposit was applied to whatever insurance did not cover and the rest was reimbursed to him. Is that standard practice? My concern is that we will pay BM, then her deposit will be reimbursed to her and DH will be paying her for nothing. Thoughts?