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No CS, no problem!

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Anyone have any experience with H or SO refusing to collect CS from BM? This has been going on for years and I've never been able to understand why. We are financially comfortable, so we don't "need" the money now, but now that H feels the need to buy SD15.75 a car for her 16th bday and tell her he'll cover some undefined amount of college tuition, I'm getting a bit concerned about how we're going to swing it alone. He has no intention of collecting CS from BM ever...his words. I swear, if we didn't live 5 states apart I'd question the relationship!

What is reasonable for the post high school years?

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I'm new to ST but I've been a SM for over 10 years. SD15.75 lives with us during the school year (and always has). Her grades are very much lower than they should be given her intelligence (Bs, Cs, Ds), her attitude is horrendous (she refuses to speak to me but cannot/will not explain to anyone why and she treats H like crap), and she has no responsibility or accountability in our house. H has never liked or supported me disciplining her, nor has he ever really disciplined her for anything, and we are now living with the consequences of that.